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Dating Tips by Dr. Ava Cadell


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If you’re on the dating scene and want to find someone special, you know how hard it can be to meet and greet the right person. Starting a conversion sounds simple enough, but it can be the most difficult part of a date because you want to make a good first impression. You can't just wait for the man or woman of your desires to talk to you because it may never happen. So you must make the first move whether you are male or female. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Here are some fun opening lines you might want to try.

OPENING LINES

* I'm really kind of shy, but I saw you and knew I had to get over myself and meet you.
* Excuse me, can you tell me the best way to meet someone like you?
* I'm tired of people wanting me for my brain and not my body. Can you help me?
* Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend with a Mustang? (name your car) Well, you do now.
* Can I buy you breakfast in the morning?
* I think I should be committed to an insane asylum 'cause you drive me crazy.
* Hi, my name is Chance. Do I have one?
* Do you know CPR? I hope so because you're so beautiful I'm having a heart attack.
* You smell really good. What scent are you wearing?
* I just wanted to come over and introduce myself, because I have the feeling that I'll see you again.
* I was looking in the dictionary, and there isn't a word that fully describes your beauty.
* Do you believe in love at first sight, or do I have to walk by you again?
* Beauty like yours is like a ghost, many have heard about it, but few have actually seen it.
* I'm going to Hawaii on vacation next month. How about joining me and making it a honeymoon?
* Do you mind if I sit down? When I saw you I went weak in the knees.
* You look like someone I should know.
* I've lost my phone number, can I borrow yours?
* I just had new shocks put on my car. Care to help me test them?
* Hi, I'm Mr. Right. Someone said you were looking for me.
* If good looks were against the law you'd be arrested, booked, and jailed for life.
* Weren't you in the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue?
* Didn't I see you on the cover of GQ magazine?
* I finally met a girl I can take home to mom. So what are you doing Sunday?
* The world is coming to an end. Have dinner with me.
* My dog would like to meet your dog, but she's very shy.
* I'm doing a poll on where single people like to go. Can you help me?
* You look familiar. Did we meet at Club Med last year?
* Hi, can we pretend that I used some line that worked really well and move on to the next stage?
* You look like the kind of person I would really like to get to know better.
* Can I have your autograph? I'm your biggest fan

Remember to say something. Anything is better than nothing! Start by commenting on the other person or the environment, then sustain the conversation by asking questions and close by getting their number.

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FIRST DATE CAUTION

Caution is essential on a first date, especially if you got your date through the personals. It's a good idea to take your own car - you can leave whenever you want and stay only as long as you want.A lot of date rapes are induced by drugs and alcohol, so the obvious steps to take are to be very careful not to drink too much or accept any kind of pills from anyone accept your doctor.

If you have had a previous abusive relationship, do not confide in a new date. By letting them know that you allowed someone to abuse you, you are in essence telling them that they can do the same thing and they won't respect you as much. Trust is something that has to be earned so don't trust everyone you come in contact with because they might just use your weaknesses against you.

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MEMORABLE KISS

* Build anticipation by kissing all around your lover's face.
* Trace the outline of your lover's lips with the tip of your tongue.
* Begin your kiss slowly and gently with emotion and sensitivity.
* Kiss without using your tongue, slightly open mouthed, with sweet breath.
* Take your lover's bottom lip between the two of yours and suck gently.
* While kissing, lick you lover's teeth with your tongue.
* To increase sexual excitement, make your kiss wet.
* Wrap you're your lips around your lover's tongue and suck passionately.
* Follow your lover's kissing techniques and emulate them.
* Use hot or cold liquids to create erotic sensations.

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THE BEST WAY TO SET THE MOOD FOR LOVE - Stimulate all five senses:

* Hearing - music and love-talk before, during, and after.
* Smell - flowers, incense, and favorite perfume or cologne.
* Sight - pretend someone special is going to be staying in your bedroom, add ornaments and candles, (a candle can turn a plain room into a romantic one).
* Touch - oils, lotions, powder, satin sheets, and lingerie.
* Taste - order in a gourmet dinner or buy favorite snacks and drinks (never make love on an empty stomach)

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NO DISTRACTIONS DURING LOVEMAKING

* Don’t answer the phone or pager.
* If you have children, tell them mom and dad need to have their private play time.
* Turn the TV off.

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WOMEN NEED TO BE PREPARED FOR LOVE

* Men should learn to undress a woman slowly and appreciate every part of her skin before making love to her. Every man should be able to remove a woman’s bra with one hand in the dark.
* Bubble baths are so romantic if only men would try them.
* Phone calls during the day to prepare your lover for the evening’s events are very effective.
* Bring home little trinkets for no special reason. A single flower or some chocolates will let her know that you were thinking about her.

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SLOWER IS BETTER

* Every man should learn to give his lover a sensual massage.
* Take time to discover her erogenous zones from her toes to the top of her head and ask her to rate your caresses and kisses from 1 to 10.
* Use ice, whipped cream, or strawberry jam for foreplay.
* Build sexual anticipation and always wait to have your orgasm last.

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LET YOUR LOVER KNOW HE/SHE’S MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE

* Make them breakfast in bed.
* Write love letters.
* Ask for his/her wish list.
* Give lots of compliments.
* Go on romantic walks.
* Surprise him/her with a picnic.
* Always kiss goodbye and give a big welcome home.
* Kiss at unexpected times in unexpected places.
* Tell him/her what you love about them the most.
* Phone in the middle of the day just because.
* Take him/her on a fantasy date once a week.
* Record a message of love and leave it where it can be found.

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SEX TIPS

* Always urinate after sex to prevent infections.
* Don’t say “I love you” during sex unless you mean it.
* To intensify your orgasms, change your regular sex position.
* Gargle with mouthwash before oral sex. It provides a tingling sensation for your lover.
* Never compare penis or breast size with your lover. It reminds them that you’re thinking of another lover.
* Discuss sexual fears as well as pleasures with your lover.
* Use a lubricant before you need it, to prevent soreness.
* Arouse your lover by licking their eyelids.
* Always use water-based lubricants. (Oil or petroleum-based ones can destroy latex)
* Try latex gloves for finger penetration, especially if you have cuts or abrasions. (gloves will offer a new form of stimulation)
* Don’t forget to put a condom on a sex toy that will be used by more than one person.
* Change condoms when going from the anus to the vagina.
* Don’t leave a hickey high on your lover’s neck, or some other noticeable place, unless they ask you to.
* Don’t place anything used for anal play into a woman’s vagina before cleaning it thoroughly, including your finger.
* Never discuss past lovers with your current partner, unless they ask you to.
* Never let someone tie you up unless you know them well and trust them.
* Never criticize your lover’s mother.
* Never leave the wet spot on your lover’s side.
* Don’t take it personally if your lover doesn’t climax every time.
* Never talk about your daily problems during love-making.
* Don’t send flowers and think everything is OK without communicating with your lover.
* Never seal your mouth over a woman’s vagina and blow air into it when she’s pregnant. It could cause an air embolism and be fatal.
* Don’t argue, insult or criticize your lover in front of friends, family, or in public.
* Be careful about placing food inside a woman’s vagina, especially sugary foods. They can cause infections.
* Don’t use nylon stockings to tie up your lover because they are difficult to untie.
* Keep your eyes open during love-making and watch your lovers face for a different sensation.
* Never argue with your lover before you go to sleep.
* Don’t forget to cuddle after sex.
* Lack of sexual desire is mainly caused by stress and overworking.
* Don’t forget to return your lover’s phone calls without delay; it shows you care

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