The 4 Sexual Stages Of A Woman's Life


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I have found that women in their forties are much more sexually confident than women in their younger years.  At this age, you know what you want, like, and dislike.  You have pretty much accepted yourself just the way you are and hopefully, you love and appreciate all your accomplishments big and small.  You don’t want to have any regrets so you’re willing to try new things including making some of those fantasies a reality.

#4 The Enlightened Woman may be:


  • Financially independent
  • Looking to regain her youth
  • Slowing down
  • Going through bereavement
  • Retired
  • Wants information on estrogen-replacement therapy, supplemental testosterone, and use of a sexual enhancers and lubricants
  • A grandmother
  • Wise

The fact is that if you have been taking care of your health by going for regular pap and pelvic tests, your blood pressure and cholesterol tested, mammograms and colonoscopies, then your senior years should be just as enjoyable as your younger years.  Even if your health is not perfect and you suffer from aches and pains, you’ll never lose your desire to give and receive love if you have a positive attitude.  It’s the best prescription for a long, healthy and happy life.

If you are single, there are plenty of ways in which to pleasure yourself.  Some women find it difficult to be sexual if they are widowed and feel guilty about even going out with a new person.  Having sex with someone other than your late spouse can create uncomfortable feelings of betrayal.  The importance is in learning to communicate in a way that will lead to your emotional and physical fulfillment because we all need to be loved and wanted, no matter what age we are.

Always seek the help of a professional doctor or therapist if you are suffering from any kind of distress or disorder.

What you need to know:

Here’s the good news.  Among older women who are healthy, active and have regular sex, even if it’s just masturbation, sexual health continues past 74 years of age (AARP, 1999).  And most women are able to have pleasurable sexual intercourse and to experience orgasm for their entire lives.  So what if you need a little extra help with sexual enhancements.  The good news is that there are some great products to help women have more comfortable, juicy sex like Zalera, a lubricant and stimulant in one formula.

Even with a decline in the production of estrogen, the vaginal walls becoming thin and inelastic, and less vaginal lubrication, the need for touch and intimacy is an essential component.  The fact is that we crave touch from the moment we are born to the day we die.  Even though we have noticeable loss in nerve fiber as we get older and decreased acuity in the sense of touch over the years, it appears our needs for tactile stimulation may actually increase.

Physiologically, touch supports the flow of blood and lymph.  Touch can decrease blood pressure and heart rate.  Touch can soothe nerves and enhance relaxation.  Massage may aid the production of endorphins -- brain chemicals that kill pain naturally.   Healing touch affirms self-esteem, creates trust and openness, and may catalyze the release of blocked emotions as tense muscles relax.  Touch can help us feel valued, peaceful, and more aware of our body and being.

Most couples will experience primary changes in their relationship.  Be prepared to make changes in your communication and listening patterns so that they may lead to greater understanding of each other.  Then you can deal with changes in your responsiveness and still maintain a happy and healthy sexual relationship that leaves you and your partner feeling satisfied.

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Ava Cadell


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