The 4 Sexual Stages Of A Woman's Life


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Make an effort to talk to your lover about what turns you on and off in specific areas such as kissing, touching, oral sex, masturbation, and intercourse because your lover cannot read your mind and your interaction can give great insight into your relationship.

#3 The Transitional Woman may be:


  • In a mid-life crises
  • Divorced
  • Kids in school/college
  • Starting a new career
  • In her sexual peak
  • Exhausted
  • Menopausal
  • Uninterested in sex

What better transition than finally finding peace of mind and tranquility.  The kids are all grown up and you now have the time to rekindle the passion with your lover.  Or maybe you are divorced and ready to reinvent your life and do the things you have only dreamt of.  This is also a time of transition for your body so be prepared for an adjustment and celebrate the end of your monthly menstruation rather than dreading menopause. You are in your sexual peak whether you feel it or not so take advantage of those raging hormones and be adventurous by living out your fantasies. If you’re single, date men younger than yourself because their sexual peak is in their twenties and lots of men love the experience of a more mature woman.

What you need to know:

Menopause signifies a change in the brain that is translated to the pituitary gland which tells the ovaries that they are fired.

For a more scientific explanation, the output of FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) and LH (luteining hormone) ends and the ovaries stop producing estrogen and progesterone.  Menopausal symptoms include: hot flushes, irritability, weight gain or water retention, elevation or diminution of libido, and rapid mood swings.

Not all women go through dramatic menopausal symptoms but for those who do, there are a myriad of helpful options available from natural supplements like Femenessence to Estrogen rings and Testosterone patches which are only available with a prescription from your doctor.  The fact is that Testosterone, the male sex hormone plays a big part in women's sexual desire, even though we have much smaller amounts than in men. In women, testosterone production is split evenly between the two ovaries and the adrenal gland and when testosterone levels are low, women’s libido diminishes.

Having said all that, these biological changes in women do not preclude sexual satisfaction so don’t panic.  If you maintain a juicy state of mind, there is no reason why you can’t overcome any organic anatomical changes.  A Transitional woman has been around and is well prepared with an arsenal of emergency supplies.  So make sure you have plenty of lubricant before you need it, bring home some porn if you find it exciting, buy various sex toys to heat up the night, and throw away your inhibitions.

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