The 4 Sexual Stages Of A Woman's Life


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  • Traumatic past sexual experience
  • Fear of losing control of yourself
  • Resentment towards your partner
  • Feeling guilty about sex
  • Fear of pregnancy
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of rejection
  • Ignorance about your bodies responses
  • Lack of stimulation
  • Low self-esteem and self-worth
  • Being too inhibited
  • Poor communication
  • Unrealistic expectations

Always seek the help of a professional doctor or therapist if you are suffering from any kind of distress or disorder.

#2 The Professional Woman may be:


  • Career minded
  • Juggling marriage & career
  • Mother with needy kids
  • Daughter with needy mother
  • Biological clock is ticking
  • Enjoys mental stimulation
  • Sophisticated and savvy buyer
  • Wants to take sex to a higher level of intimacy

Today more than ever, women are highly respected and sought after in the world of business.  Many women choose to have a successful career before embarking on motherhood while others focus on family.  Either way, it’s a time in your life where you want to experience meaningful emotional and sexual relationships.  That’s not to say a “quickie” can’t be satisfying but the deeper connection you can only get through mental stimulation is what turns a lot of professional women on.  At this point in your life, you are more sexually confident, comfortable asking for what you want, and not afraid to go after it.

What you need to know:

If this sounds like you, then you probably have several roles including professional worker, housewife, mother, daughter, and lover just to name a few.  That’s quite a balancing act so it’s important to keep your life in balance.  It’s essential to do an inventory of the time you actually spend in different categories which include time with your family, work, social, personal relaxation, and intimate time with your lover.  Sometimes it can become necessary to make an appointment for romance and sex.  You must make it a priority in your life because you know you deserve it and in the end none of your accomplishments will mean as much as the loving memories that you have created.  Even your kids will grow up, fall in love, and leave home.

Don’t get caught up in a common scenario where some women lose sexual desire after childbirth and never rekindle the passion they once had with their lover.  Psychological problems can cause serious sexual dysfunctions in women; so for example, if a woman believes that being a mother does not constitute her being a sexual being, it could result in dyspareunia that causes chronic pain, exhaustion, and even interferes with the vascular and neurological systems.  Always seek the help of a professional doctor or therapist if you are suffering from any kind of distress or disorder.

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Ava Cadell


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