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3 Reasons Men Cheat

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Having sexual intercourse, oral sex and anal sex are the top cheating activities, but it's not only about sex. Here are the top 3 reasons men cheat:

1. Sex, whether it’s more sex, different sex, better sex , it doesn’t really matter because it’s about sex with someone new.

2. Ego, which of course leads to sex. A man’s ego is very fragile so if you don’t feed it regularly with plenty of compliments and praise and he gets it from someone else, what do you think he’s going to do? Screw her brains out, if he can.

3. Emotional connection that he is not getting at home. That could be any kind of emotional gratification from having someone listen to him, nurture him, dominate him, baby him or just make him feel good about himself when he is with you.

We all have our own boundaries and if we don’t share those with our lover then we can’t blame them when they overstep them.

I know a married couple whose deal-breaker is not to bring home any STD’s or get anyone pregnant. If either of them has a sexual desire, they don’t deny themselves, but take action to satisfy it. And that’s cool with them.

I know another couple whose definition of cheating includes fantasizing and flirting with someone else. They keep each other on a short leash, but it works for them. So, the lesson here is to know your limits including relationship deal-breakers and tell your partner because they can’t read your mind.

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