Some people get anxious and fearful when they experience rejection in a relationship.
Some people get anxious and fearful when they experience rejection in a relationship. Experiencing rejection is not fun and can lower your self-confidence. The key is knowing how to deal with the process of not getting what you want. Here are some suggestions on how to manage the fear of rejection.
Sooner or later you will experience some rejection. When you go for the job interview or ask somebody on a date, you will get turned down eventually. There is no way to avoid getting turned down and you will have to get used to not getting everything you want.
When you experience some rejection, make it a practice of learning from it. Try learning from your mistakes so that when you try again you will not make the same mistakes. You will also increase your chances of making it the next time around.
Keep on trying. Sometimes it will take a lot of persistence to get something you want. A lot of times you will not make it the first or second time around. Persistence and having some patience are important if you want to accomplish anything.
Getting frustrated is common when we do not get what we want. Instead of yelling at somebody else, try to give yourself a positive, self talk. Tell yourself that you can do it and that you can make it. Giving yourself positive encouragement can help lift your spirits.
Take things slowly. For instance, let's say you have been on five or six interviews and you didn't get the job on any of the interviews. Instead of getting upset, try to evaluate your situation and look for ways to improve. Go slow when you go about doing this so you will be more aware of what you are doing right and what you are doing wrong.
Everybody gets rejected sometime or another. Do not let it get to you. If you still have trouble, then talk to a counselor or professional.
Stan Popovich is the author of A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear” an easy to read book that presents a overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com