It can be tough when someone you know is in an abusive relationship. Here are five suggestions on how you can help a loved one deal with domestic violence.
1.Get the facts of the current situation
Talk to your loved one to get the facts of their current relationship. The key is to focus on what is reality and what is not. Do not focus on gossip or what other people think. It is important to know what is really going on in a particular relationship.
2. Learn the facts of domestic violence
Learn as much as you can about domestic violence and relay this information to your loved one. It is important that the person is aware of what domestic violence is all about.
3. Keep In touch
Keep in touch with the person on a regular basis. Events can change very quickly and it is important to be there for the person who is dealing with domestic violence. This will also help you to monitor the situation as it unfolds.
4. Don’t assume anything
Many people assume on how things may work out. Do not assume anything. Focus on the reality of the situation and be prepared for what may or may not happen. Do not be caught off guard. If things start becoming dangerous for your loved one, don’t wait until something happens. Be Proactive when things get out of control.
5. Get Advice From The Professionals
Talk to the experts who know what to do when dealing with a domestic violence situation. Try to convince your loved one to talk to a professional so they can be aware of what is happening. If they refuse to seek help right away, then wait a few days and remind them again to get help. Be persistent but do not be a pest.
Usually the person who is dealing with a domestic violence situation is confused and not sure what to do. Your job is to help lead your loved one in the right direction so that they can get the proper help. Remember that fear is one of the main reasons why somebody won’t get help. If you address their fears, then the person will be more willing to seek help.
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/