Does it ever feel like getting a date is nothing more than a pipe dream? If you’re like most women, your main objective in dating is to find a suitable companion that will truly appreciate you for who you are. Well the good news is that you don’t have to change everything about yourself and surrender your dignity just to get a date.
Well in fact, getting asked out on dates doesn’t have to be difficult at all.
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The most important thing to remember about being more appealing to men is that to get the types of dates you want, you have to make yourself more datable. Here are 4 ways to have more dates without compromising your personality.
- 1. Check Your Attitude. One of the first steps in making yourself more datable is examining your attitude. Because attitudes are so incredibly multi-faceted, let’s just take a look at some of the main attitude offenders. Are you overly negative or critical? Many men would rather not listen to their date complain and sarcastically criticize everything in her line of sight. Examining your attitude doesn’t mean you have to change everything about yourself, but it simply means that you should be aware of your attitude and try to keep a positive mindset.
- 2. Meet your goals. All men love women who are interesting. They love when a woman they are interested in is actively and passionately pursuing her goals. If you’re like most people, it can be difficult to focus your attention on one goal until it is accomplished, however; follow-through is very important. Having a lot of different, unfinished goals will frustrate you in the long run because it will likely make you feel that you haven’t accomplished anything. When you are setting goals, the famous words of humorist Josh Billings are words that everyone should live by, “Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you get there.”
- 3. Don’t be a cocklebur. Have you ever walked through the woods and noticed that you have those little cockleburs clinging to your socks? What was your reaction? Chances are you brushed them off and made a mental note to stay away from that area of the woods. Well, this is exactly what happens when we cling to a guy and come on way too strong. As women, we tend to get a little overzealous and jump the relationship gun. However, this usually backfires because the more we push, the more the men we are interested in tend to pull away. Every time you feel the urge to obsessively call, text, email, and Facebook him, remember the example of the cockleburs and allow him to pursue you. If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen, and if not, then someone else will find you.
- 4. Love yourself. This may actually be one of the most crucial factors of being datable because if we don’t love ourselves, we’ll have a difficult time convincing any man to love us. A great way to learn to appreciate yourself is to write down your positive attributes. At first you may find yourself struggling to compile a list, but before you know it, you will probably run out of paper.