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Has Your Fairy Godmother Gone Missing?

Still Single? Don't be brainwashed into believing that you have no control over attracting love!

Once upon a time in a land of smart and sassy men and women there lived a myth, a big giant, crazy myth, that true love comes about only when it's "meant to be."

These smart and sassy people, who think nothing of tackling big careers, higher education, exotic travel and who are adept at "making life happen," crumble when it comes to insisting on a love life.

Poor dears, brainwashed since childhood, they believe that love arrives "magically" (sometimes white horses are involved) and that they are powerless over love because true love is just one of those things that is either "meant to be" or is "not meant to be."

Ugh. Hogwash. Pleeez!

Imagine if when we needed to find a new home, we just sat on the couch, waiting patiently for this new place, that is "meant to be," to come and FIND US?

Ditto for that new job. I mean really, who needs to write out a resume, go networking with former business associates, interview for career positions or scan the internet when at the end of the day you believe your career is either meant to be (or not).

Do you see where I am going here?

Have you been passively waiting around for Mr. or Ms. Charming thinking that you have no say, no power, in the most important sector of your life? Or perhaps worse. Were you actively involved in manifesting love for awhile and then you got discouraged because he or she didn't appear within the limited time-frame you decided you were willing to wait and now you've given up?

Here's what I know for sure: YOU have the power (and your own special brand of magic) to make love happen.

If you've read The Soulmate Secret , you've got the step-by-step formula. All you need to do now is re-ignite your "possibility engine" and re-commit to putting some time, energy, intention and attention onto your love life. (You can do this!)

About Arielle Ford
Arielle knows that finding true love is possible for anyone, at any age, and she points to herself as living proof. Married for the first time at age 44, she expanded on the set of skills that she used to launch her highly successful Public Relations firm, The Ford Group, and applied them to her love life. She is the author of the international bestselling book The Soulmate Secret: How To Manifest The Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction. Arielle lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends. Learn more about Arielle at www.arielleford.com and www.soulmatesecret.com

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