What does it take to manifest the love of your life?
I've heard from first-time brides (at 49 and older!), from busy entrepreneurs whose 80-hour-a-week work schedules left little time for romance, and from divorcees and widowers who were convinced that the opportunity for true love had long passed them by.
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Those who have successfully manifested their soulmates did so by finding a healthy balance between intending and allowing; between doing and being.
Not only did they do the necessary manifestation techniques but they also cultivated a state of what the Buddhists call "Beginner's Mind". They carried out the exercises and rituals with an attitude of openness, eagerness, and an absence of preconceptions.
Even if their hearts were still aching from a past breakup or their present circumstances were less than ideal, they didn't allow themselves to fall into the common trap of thinking that they'd already done and tried everything, and therefore nothing new would work for them. They stayed open to the possibilities and remained hopeful, not defeated.
Becoming a successful manifestor requires a certain level of emotional maturity. Great manifestors have learned the art of managing their thoughts and emotions so that even when doubt, fear or other limiting feelings pop up, they are not swept into a spiral of negativity. Developing this kind of mental discipline requires us to make a deliberate choice to focus our attention on what we desire rather than on what we don't want.
For example, whenever I catch myself dwelling in a negative or unpleasant thought or feeling, I say to myself "cancel-cancel," and I then intentionally create a new vision for myself. Sometimes this simple shift in perception is all I need, and other times I reach into my toolkit of emotional release techniques and dedicate five or ten minutes to working through my mini-issue so that my creative energies stay aligned with the outcome I desire.
You too must recognize the powerful influence your thoughts and feelings have and do your best to keep them positive. I know; the process of magnetizing your soulmate can get discouraging at times. But if you're approaching it from the mindset of "it's been a year and it still hasn't happened," you're living in the reality of what's missing.
The universe simply can't add more love to your life when you're focused on the love you don't have.
If you can shift your focus to magnetizing your soulmate rather than "looking" for him or her; and if you can adjust your emotional state from impatience to savoring the waiting, love will blossom in its own time, and in colors and fragrances that will both surprise and delight you.
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Your soulmate is on the way to you from wherever he or she is right now. The details are not yours to coordinate. Your job is simply to love yourself, enjoy your life as it unfolds in each moment, hold a clear intention of the love you are manifesting, and have faith in the unseen forces that are even now guiding the fulfillment of your dream.