Curious about how to flirt to get the attention you want and the best results. Follow these tips!
6 suggestions for more successful flirting:
1. Availability And Approachability > Attractiveness.
According to Psychologist Dr. Monica Moore, "It's not the most physically appealing people who get approached, but the ones who signal their availability and confidence through basic flirting techniques like eye contact and smiles."
2. Smiling And Eye Contact.
The two most universal flirting techniques STILL work the best! Research shows that men and women around the world use these techniques to flirt.
To learn more about the cross cultural connection technique check out: The Mating Game: A Primer on Love, Sex, and Marriage.
3. Be Relatable.
According to the Journals of Nonverbal Behavior, "Mimicry was positively associated with romantic interest..." Mimicking someone's movements can indicate that they are interested.
We like people who are similar to us! Try relating to someone who you are interested in, even on a small level. Even when people are not like us, we seem to take one aspect of information on them and connect it to us, which makes us think more favorably about them.
According to Harvard researchers, "Once you have a little piece of information about someone being similar to you or different, you seem to take it and run with it. You may think they are similar to you across the board, even though you may not have much reason to think this. It is rather surprising."
4. Don't Flirt At Inappropriate Times.
Don't flirt during work meetings, during parent teacher conferences, or during any important or professional meeting—use your judgment. If you feel like it's an inappropriate time to approach someone wait for the right time.
5. Be Aware Of Unwanted Flirting.
Watch for signs that they're just not that into you; aggressive unwanted flirting is awkward and uncomfortable. Watch their body language, if they step away, continually look away, or cross their legs away from you they are probably not interested.
6. Be Curious.
Everyone likes to talk about him or herself; ask questions and prove you are really interested in what they have to say. They'll appreciate that you genuinely want to learn about them. Experts include this in their four favorite flirting techniques also!