There is only one reason that you should use an online dating site; your day-to-day life isn't providing you with the opportunity to meet interesting people to date. Since 35 percent of all relationships originate online, it makes sense to use it as an opportunity to find romance. If you use in addition to other ways to meet others, you'll vastly increase your possibilities of finding The One. After you make the decision to go online, the next step is to choose a dating site that meets your needs. First, decide which kind of site makes sense for you. There are three types of dating sites: mainstream, matchmaking and niche.
- Mainstream sites, such as match.com, OK Cupid and Plenty of Fish, attract a large, diverse group of members. The male to female ratio is usually fairly balanced, which gives you a good chance to meet your match.
- Matchmaking sites, such as Chemistry.com and eHarmony use a formula that decides who you should meet online. They base their matches on answers to quizzes you take when you sign up. More women than men tend to use these sites. People who are on these sites are more likely to be serious about finding a long-term relationship.
- There are thousands of niche sites, such as JDate, DateMyPet and AsianPeopleMeet, which are based on common values, demographics or interests. While these sites have a smaller population, you're more likely to have something in common with everyone who uses the site.
According to a research published in the New York Times earlier this year, the odds of meeting someone who is a good match are about the same on mainstream and matchmaking sites.
Before you pay for a dating site, explore what it has to offer. This should be free. Create a user name (usually 16 characters or less), sign up and search for age-appropriate candidates who live within a reasonable distance. Sort them by last activity date, so that you can see how many are currently using the site. Don't pay to join unless there are many active users.
There are lots of ways to make online dating easier. In my next article, I'll give you tips so you can make your online profile stand out. If you want help making sense of online dating, contact me about dating coaching.
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