Dear Annie, I met Al online a couple of weeks ago. I can't remember ever experiencing such a profound initital connection.
Part of me wants to discover everything about him as quickly as possible. But, my other side wants to get to know him gradually, so we can discover if we have true potential.
I'm still talking to other guys online. If the time comes when Al and I agree to focus exclusively on each other, I'm happy to take my profile down. In the meantime, I updated my profile and posted a new photo.
It's not that I want to keep my options open. I just don't want to become invested in a relationship that may not go anywhere.
But I feel guilty. I worry that he might see my profile updates and feel hurt or angry.
Should I stop interacting with other guys and just focus on Al? Cathy
Cathy, Making your profile inactive within a few weeks of meeting someone sounds premature. And, unless both of you agree to do so, it's also unwise.
There is no way you can know whether your affinity signals a lasting connection and compatibility, or if it's solely about chemistry and attraction.
In the meantime, ignore your guilty feelings. You are doing nothing wrong. Until you and Al agree to be in an exclusive relationship, he can't reasonably expect you to be unavailable to others.
Give your budding relationship a little time to grow. If you and Al have a strong connection, it's likely that no one else will interest you.
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