Have any and all feelings without judgement. We are set up by the culture to have emotions. Having them, and observing them, is the route to change. You know you can’t just decide to feel differently. But you can question and talk and support each other.
Let this be the best Valentine’s Day ever! The one where you can claim yourself, the life you have chosen, and the life you are creating. You get to relinquish the meaning of the right dinner reservation and the right present. You can embrace the meaning of good friendship.