5 WAYS TO PROTECT YOUR NEW RELATIONSHIP

By Anne Stirling Hastings. Posted on Feb 26th 2013.

FALLING IN LOVE MAKES ALL YOUR EMOTIONS STRONGER AND YOU CAN HELP EACH OTHER THROUGH THEM!

Be sure to tell each other when you have emotions toward the other, even if you know they aren’t rational. When he talks for an hour with an ex who you know he hates, and you feel jealous, tell him! You can say, “I know you aren’t interested in her, but I am jealous anyway. I’m sorry for feeling that way and seeming to not trust you, but this is the emotion I am having.”

When your partner admits to an emotion, listen with compassion. You know you haven’t done anything wrong, but yet she is seeming to accuse you. If you remember that all kinds of emotions appear when falling in love, you will know that she just loves you! So what if her feelings don’t make sense. You could thank her for feeling jealous, and wanting you all to herself.

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REMEMBER, EVERYONE WILL OVERREACT WHEN IN LOVE

Establishing rules, and shaming each other for not following them, will harm the relationship. Understanding the other person’s emotional reactions will open doors to helping each other feel safe, protected and trusting. Isn’t that just perfect?

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Anne Stirling Hasting, Ph.D. www.CreateNewLove.com Please check out my book, Reclaiming Healthy Sexual Energy: Revised to learn how to truly heal sexuality. Then Healing Humanity to understand shaming, and how to stop taking it on. Create New Love puts it all together to prepare you for your next relationship. Find me at AnneStirlingHastings.com too.

Location: Camarillo, CA

Credentials: PhD

Website: http://www.createnewlove.com

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