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How to Use Your Feminine Energy To Attract A Man In A Way He Can't RESIST

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How to Use Feminine Energy to Connect With A Man
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Put your XX energy to good use!

Have you ever suffered a breakup, knowing it was for the best but went back to him anyway hoping things would change? Or have you ever reached out to a guy that doesn't even deserve your time and attention because you are lonely?

Maybe you're the kind of gal who sends a text to a guy when your better judgment says wait for him to reach out to you instead. Do you ask guys out?

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you need to know how to attract a man using feminine energy.

No matter how far we have liberated ourselves as women, men are still men. You don’t need to be like them to gain their affections. You need to be you, your authentic female self. That is why, especially in this overly masculine world, it is important to know how to use feminine energy to connect with a man.

What I am referring to is your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man. The result will be you attracting a guy who is authentically interested in you. When this happens, it is very nurturing to your feminine soul.

So how do you use your feminine energy to connect with a man in a way that gives you what you are looking for? You do it by connecting to your authentic feminine as opposed to your inauthentic feminine.

In other words, you first need to connect to the brighter side of the feminine within you. Secondly, you need to become aware of the dark side of the feminine that is operating within you and your interactions with men.

The Dark Side of Your Feminine

It is important for you to notice if your behavior, when connecting with a man, is coming from a place of fullness or not.

Are you connecting to him because you are lonely? Are you connecting with him because you want to feel attractive? Are you connecting with him in hopes he will pursue you? In other words, is he filling some type of hole in you that you should first fill within yourself?

I see it often. Women connect with a man because of their insecurities.

Do you remember an old movie with Diane Keaton called "Looking for Mr. Goodbar"? It is about a woman seeking love outside of herself. 

She begins to go clubbing at night and picks up men for one night stands as a way of getting excitement and sexual fulfillment without commitment. It doesn’t end like the fairy tales we are programmed to believe. She ends up being murdered during her professed last hookup.

I am not here to judge sexual activity or your choice with whom you decide to share your body with. What I would like to stress here is the way women are wired. Women, women’s bodies, sexuality, and sensual expression all loved to be honored and revered.

If you do not feel honored by a man, your Yoni (your female parts) will know it. Your head keeps trying tactics to get his attention but your Yoni knows different. The dark side of the feminine is when you are disconnected from the wisdom of your Yoni and won’t listen to her.

And when you are disconnected from the wisdom of your Yoni, you do things that are not in your highest good.

Dark Expression of the Feminine

The dark side of your feminine is expressed when you do things like have unenjoyable sex for security. Date a guy, not because you are truly interested in him but rather because he provides other benefits like taking you on trips, buying you nice clothes, or taking you out to dinner and entertainment.

The dark side of the feminine is also expressed through disempowering neediness. Things like staying in an abusive relationship because you don’t have the confidence to leave. Or being with a guy because you say to yourself, "he needs me."

Another dark side of the feminine is being in a relationship where you are the only one in it. Your man benefits from all the wonderful things you do for the relationship but it goes barely or totally unreciprocated.

You allow yourself to be in a relationship where it isn’t a partnership of caring and sharing. Possibly one of more duty and service or low-grade misery and frustration.

Women who are stuck in any of these patterns need to learn how to use their authentic feminine energy to connect with a man.

The Bright Side of Your Feminine

When you use your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man, you will get amazing results.

When you are connected to the bright side of the feminine you are playful, transparent, and real. You aren’t overly concerned with what others think. You understand outer beauty has a short shelf life therefore the foundation of your interactions with men come from your inner radiance.

When you are connected to your bright side of the feminine, you know, all you need is this powerful inner radiance. It will attract to you all that you need. You no longer need to "energetically dance and prance and put on a happy face" to feel accepted by others.

You enjoy stillness, sensuality, and self-nurturing, always making sure you have enough time to take care of yourself emotionally. You are at home in your body. You have no need to overly flaunt yourself in front of men because men are already attracted to you by your authentic feminine radiance.

The most wonderful part of this is that the right kind of men are attracted to you because of the radiance you have cultivated within. Men look up to you and feel lucky to be able to spend time with you. A man loves to be in a radiant woman’s energy field.

Develop Your Authentic Feminine Radiance

Knowing how to use feminine energy to connect with a man is a matter of becoming receptive. Men are the "outies"; women are the "innies". Masculine energy is focused outward energy; feminine energy is receptive and nurturing.

You develop your authentic feminine radiance by become receptive and nurturing to you.

Stop obsessing about a guy. Stop trying to get a guy. Stop asking guys out. Believe me, if they want you, they will come to you. Your radiance will attract him to you from the other side of the country. Really!

All you have to do is take care of you. Make sure you are being true to you.

Make sure you are taking care of the feelings that arise in your body, like being there for yourself when you are emotionally upset. Doing those things for yourself that allow you to feel supported, nurtured, and authentically loved. Loved for who you are, not for who someone wants you to be.

The Right Guy Shows Up And Wonderful Things Happen

When you know how to use your feminine energy to connect with a man, you will feel confident and joyful in your interactions with him because you won’t care if he finds you interesting, attractive, intelligent, or anything.

You will connect with him on a human level instead of with some agenda in mind. And he will consciously or unconsciously know that.

If the guy isn’t authentic himself, he will fall to the way side. This is a wonderful way to protect yourself from attracting the wrong guy. If he is a guy worth being with, he will stick around.

When you learn how to use your authentic feminine energy to connect with a man and become intimate with him, the sex will be much deeper and profound. Your aura (energy field around you) becomes larger and you attract even more wonderful things into your life.

Your creative expression is also ignited and you may find yourself producing amazing creative projects. When you learn how to connect with a man using your authentic feminine essence a whole new world will open to you.

Anna-Thea is an intimacy coach. She supports women in reclaiming their bodies and speaking authentically from their hearts. She has on-line programs educating women about cultivating their feminine side. If you would like to find out more about how you can cultivate more of your feminine side visit her website or Leader of Love. 

This article was originally published at annathea.org. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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