To really get the most out of online dating, here are some tips for online dating dont’s.
Being too Shy or Lazy
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Many people think that online dating is a wonderful way for people who are shy to find someone to date. Well, guess what? Being shy or lazy online will lead to just as many failed attempts at dating as it does in the offline world. As a matter of fact, it will make you more frustrated and you will hate dating. If you don’t want to fail at online dating, you’ve got to come out of your shell, both when chatting with someone via email and when you meet them in person.
Being Passive Rather than Active
This is different than being shy. Passive daters are not fully committed to the idea of online dating. They approach it with half of their attention and most don’t commit to a paid membership which puts everyone at a disadvantage. Regardless of the reason for your passivity, whether you’re indecisive, fear rejection or are just too lazy, failing at online dating will be a blow to your ego.
Cutting and Pasting your Replies
Don’t email the same responses to everyone you find online. Many people will see through this masked attempt at originality. This type of correspondence is impersonal and if it’s all you’ve got time for, then perhaps you don’t really have enough time for dating. If you do this because you’re not good with words, then read how others respond to your messages and use these as guides. Nobody likes a form letter, especially when they’re looking for romance.
Sounding Negative or Arrogant
No one wants to talk to someone who is a downer or just the opposite, someone who cannot stop talking about themselves. Keep your negative experiences to yourself. You’re starting anew and there is no need to drag your past into your future. A successful relationship is a two-way relationship. If you do all the talking, it won’t ever develop into anything more than a one-way dead end.
Making Overt or Borderline Sexually Harassing Comments
Asking questions that are too personal or offering up blunt comments about sex are almost guaranteed ways to scare off any prospective dates. Plus, doing so could put your membership in jeopardy if women complain about your emails and the words they contain.
Lying About your Relationship Status
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You’ll get away with this type of lie for a while, but ultimately, this type of lie will come back to bite you and it will hurt either you or the person you’re involved with. Don’t say you’re single if you’re not. If you’re not single, you shouldn’t be using an online dating site.
Exaggerating a Little Bit is OK, but Flat Out Lying will Cast you to Lose