How to CHANGE Negative Thought Patterns In 5 Steps


How to CHANGE Negative Thought Patterns In 5 Steps
How to break a bad habit when it is entirely in your mind?

Have you developed the bad habit of dwelling too much on the same negative thoughts.

And there is no outward physical problems associated to them.

It is just your negative thinking, like “I’m so depressed” or “I hate my job” or “I can’t do this” or “I hate being fat.”

How do you break a bad habit when it is entirely in your mind?

There are actually quite a number of ways to de-condition a negative thought pattern.

The basic idea is to replace the old pattern with a new one.

Mentally resisting the negative thought will usually backfire - you will simply reinforce it and make it even worse.

The more you fire those neurons in the same way, the stronger the pattern becomes in your Brian.

Here is a method I have developed for my Dynamic Life Development System that I still use myself to this day to break negative thought pattens and teach to those I coach.

Instead of trying to resist the negative thought pattern, you will reframe it.

Think of it like mental kung fu.

Take the energy of the negative thought and re-channel it into a positive thought.

With a little mental conditioning, whenever the negative thought occurs, your mind will automatically flow into the linked positive thought.

Here is how it works...

Let us assume your negative thought is a subvocalization, meaning that it is like you hear a voice in your head that says something you want to change, like, “I’m an idiot.”

If the negative thought is visual (a mental image) or kinesthetic (a gut feeling), you can use a similar process.

In many cases the thought will manifest as a combination of all three (visual, auditory, and kinesthetic (Feelings).

Step 1: Turn the negative thought into a mental image.

Take that little voice, and turn it into a corresponding mental picture.

For example, if your thought is, “I’m an idiot,” imagine yourself wearing a dunce cap, dressed very foolishly, and jumping around like a dork.

See yourself surrounded by other people all pointing at you while you shout, “I’m an idiot.”

The more you exaggerate the scene, the better.

Imagine bright colors, lots of animation, rapid movement, and even sexual imagery if it helps you remember.

Rehearse this scene over and over in your mind until you reach the point where thinking the negative thought automatically brings up this goofy imagery.

If you have trouble visualizing, you can also do the above in an auditory fashion.

Translate the negative thought into a sound, such as a jingle that you sing.

Go through the same process with sound instead of imagery.

It works either way.

I happen to prefer the visual method though.

Step 2: Select an empowering replacement thought.

Now decide what thought you would like to have instead of the negative one.

So if you’ve been thinking, “I’m an idiot,” maybe you would like to replace that with “I’m brilliant.”

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