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There's no reason for a woman to be left unsatisfied — EVER.
By Ange Fonce — Written on May 03, 2017
Surveys show that over 70% of women need more than just sexual intercourse to orgasm. As many men seem to go straight for penetration, this leads to a hell of a lot of women who are left feeling unsatisfied sexually. A huge number of women fake orgasms to keep their men happy. Unfortunately, this leads to dull sex and possibly even separation.
If you don't learn how to satisfy a woman — your woman in particular — sooner or later she'll find a man who will!
You need to know how to give deeper orgasms than just clitoral orgasms to really win her heart and take her deep. Men who do find that they get lots of sex and lots of positive feedback.
Really exploring your woman's orgasmic potential is one of the best ways to become much closer — and it leads to sublime sex, again and again.
The following tips all depend on some great foreplay first to get her really wet and wanting penetration. I like to spend a lot of time on breast kissing and massage, as well as long strokes up her body and inner legs. Really take your time in foreplay and enjoy every touch and kiss.
Here are 5 types of female orgasms ... and how to give them to a woman!
Male orgasms are easy to understand. You simply get aroused, thrust, finish and go to sleep. Most men can only have one type of orgasm, after which they usually lose their erection for some time before they can get hard and have another.
Women, however, can have many different types of orgasms. These orgasms range from those that are barely noticeable to her man, to screaming, toe-curling, and even bed-soaking squirting orgasms. And, there are all sorts of orgasms in between those extremes!
Also, unlike men, the type of orgasm a woman has is often 100% controllable by her sexual partner — you! (With her consent, course.)
One of the first steps to giving your girl the strongest orgasms of her life is recognizing that you have control over her orgasms. My point is that you should never blame your woman for not coming. Always be honest with yourself (and with her) and ask yourself (and her) if you are really sexually satisfying her.
Let's talk about some of the types of orgasms women are capable of having — and how to satisfy her with them all.
1. Foreplay Orgasms
These orgasms take place during foreplay (or "pre-penetration" as I like to call it). Foreplay orgasms are important because they allow your lover to "warm up" and have multiple orgasms later when you penetrate her. Every GREAT lover should have the following foreplay orgasms in his playbook:
- Clitoral orgasm: This orgasm concentrates on the clitoris. Not as intense as the deep spot and other vaginal orgasms but still a great warm up and relatively easy to give.
- "Deep Spot" orgasm: The "deep spot" orgasm is often the first time many women have a true "internal" orgasm, as it's usually easier for a woman to have one of these than it is for her to have one during sex.
- "G-Spot" orgasm: Similar to the deep spot orgasm, but not quite as intense. Still, a great orgasm to have in your bag of tricks to get her "primed" for multiples during sex!
- Nipple orgasm: Not all women can have an orgasm through nipple stimulation alone, but since I personally know a few who can, I had to list this type to make the article complete!
Now, let's talk about some of the orgasms women are capable of having during penetration!
2. Penetration Orgasms
- Vaginal orgasm: A normal orgasm while you are inside of her, much like the "deep spot" orgasm. Usually more intense than any foreplay orgasm, but for some woman very difficult to achieve. Far easier to achieve AFTER a foreplay orgasm.
- Anal orgasm: This occurs when you have a clitoral or vaginal orgasm during "rear entry." It feels very different to a woman than a clitoral or vaginal orgasm alone does.
- Multiple orgasms: Multiple orgasms are when your lover has an orgasm and, right after, you give her another (or many) orgasms. This is different from the continuous orgasm, described next.
- Continuous orgasm: This is when your girl has an orgasm but, instead of letting her sexual excitement come down—as many women think they have to because they are sensitive—you INSTEAD keep going, often even harder. This causes her to start orgasming UNCONTROLLABLY and over and over. With a continuous orgasm, she will often be EXHAUSTED after and will always say she has no idea how many orgasms she had. 99% of women need to be verbally talked through a continuous orgasm as it is rare that previous lovers have EVER given them. She also has no way to do this herself through masturbation. If you give your woman a continuous orgasm she just might become sexually addicted to you, so only do this with women you REALLY like!
- Squirting orgasm: Ah, the mysterious one! Well, first of all, I will tell you, squirting orgasms are very real and every woman has the "equipment" to have one! Actually getting your girl to experience one of these intense orgasms is an another article altogether ... but let's just say that they're a lot of fun.
3. Clitoral Orgasm
The best way to give a clitoral orgasm is with finger massage. I find I use the middle finger of my right hand, as I am right handed. Be careful that you have short nails!
Every woman is different when it comes to clitoris massage. Some like a direct touch with circles or flicks upwards or side-to-side. Some do not like direct touch as they are too sensitive. These women usually like touching to the side of the clitoris. Either way, lubrication is a must at all stages! If dipping into her wetness is not enough, use lube (or spit, if you're desperate). Lubrication lasts much longer.
One needs to become sensitive to how she responds to clitoral massage. Her sounds and body movements can tell you a lot about how much pleasure she is receiving. Arching her back is a great sign of pleasure. Asking her to masturbate to see what she likes is one easy technique to really learn how to touch her — and it's hot, too! Make sure you swap to show her how you like your penis touched.
Continue using the stroke that she likes, applying a bit more pressure when she's close to orgasm to take her over the edge. A lot of men tend to change things when they need to just keep on doing what is working.
If you are not successful in driving her to an orgasm, one can always have her vibrator handy. It's nice to warm up the vibrator before use with your hands or some warm water. Use the head of the toy on or near the clitoris rather than in her vulva. Start with a light pressure and a low vibration. As she gets closer, you can turn up the vibrations and start making movements from the G-spot to the clitoris and back.
4. Deep Spot Orgasm
- Step 1: Make sure your hands and nails are clean and trimmed. Otherwise not only will you cut and irritate her skin, but she will not have an orgasm!
- Step 2: Warm up, as usual, kissing her, rubbing her, and both getting naked.
- Step 3: Insert your longest (middle) finger palm up and inside of her. Go as far back as you can!
- Step 4: While kissing her (stop kissing her as she gets really turned on), push the tip of your finger into the top back wall of her vagina in a curling motion (go deep!).
- Step 5: Start slowly, then vary the speed and pressure according to her response, steadily increasing pressure and intensity as you go. Most women need around five minutes of this stimulation to have an orgasm, but it's different for everybody. One thing is for sure though. When she does finally have an orgasm this way, you will know it!
5. Vaginal/G-Spot Orgasms
The women I have spoken with as a sex coach say that these types of orgasms are more fulfilling than clitoral orgasms. Once a woman starts to have vaginal orgasms, she may find that clitoral orgasms are not as attractive anymore.
The best way to take a woman into vaginal orgasms is to combine some G-spot massage with clitoris stimulation. The G-spot has a ridged surface two inches into the vagina, on the upper wall. You can locate the G-spot by inserting a finger into the vagina, palm up, in about an inch or so.
One powerful method to give a G-spot orgasm is to curl your first finger and place it on the right side of the clitoris. Have your second finger on the G-spot. Make sure that you have lots of lube! Start a slow in-and-out vibration and as she responds, vibrate your fingers more and more strongly. When she gets close, one can get quite vigorous, moving about two inches and as quickly as possible. Often she will ejaculate from this method and you will hear a mushy sound during the massage.
In my experience using this method, I can take just about any woman to 3 deep orgasms in about 40 minutes with a little rest in between. As a variation, one can also use oral sex combined with G-spot fingering, as many women only orgasm from oral sex.
So there you have it. Being a woman does have some advantages!
Now that you know how many different types of orgasms your girl can have, it's your job as a man to give them to her. As always, leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you.
For more information about how social courting, relationship, sex and intimacy coaching with Ange Fonce can help you, visit his website.
This article was originally published at The Intimate Communion Magazine. Reprinted with permission from the author.