After three days of this groveling prayer, nothing happened. No call came, no miracle happened. I finally made the call of shame. I called my handsome man and informed him of my dilemma. In the most dramatic fashion I explained that I had a problem. He listened intently and when I finished, he said nothing – for four minutes he was silent.
“Are you there?” I finally asked.
“Yes.” He answered quietly.
“Well, say something.” I nearly demanded.
“What do you want me to say, honey?”
“What do you think?” I asked.
“I don’t think anything. I’m not sure what the problem is.”
“I just told you the problem.” I said getting a bit perturbed.
“Honey, that’s not a problem. It’s not our problem, anyway.”
“How can you say that?” I asked incredulously.
“Did you honestly think we could have a relationship where we only saw each other four days a month?” He asked almost comically.
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I stopped and thought about it. We had been having a wonderful relationship where we’d only see each other four days a month. In a good month, we saw each other five or six times. I couldn’t answer the question. Did I think it would go on this way forever? He waited patiently for my response. I could hear his smile over the phone.
“Babe, are you there?” He asked still smiling.
“Well?” He chuckled.
“I don’t know what I thought. What did you think?” I asked subbornly.
“I thought we’d spend time alone together and there would also be times where we spent time with Ashley. If we are planning to have a future together, shouldn’t we at least consider adding her to the mix?” He laughed out loud at my naïveté.
My man and I spent the next hour discussing plans to incorporate Ashley into our time together. I honestly had not even considered the day that she would be a regular part of my dating life.
In the midst of this conversation I also had an epiphany. Instead of me shielding her from my dating life, I would become her coach. I would be a great teacher. I would begin to teach my daughter a great lesson. I would teach her “how to date”.
My daughter deserves to learn a lesson that most girls never learn from their mother.
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Think about it. Did your mother teach you how to date? Did you get to watch up close and personally, your mother on a date? Most of our mothers were married to our fathers so there was no dating. Other mothers were like me, they shielded their daughters from their dating lives. I had been sneaking around like a thief in the night for the past three years. I had almost missed the opportunity to teach my daughter what could be the greatest lesson in life.