4. Be grateful for your differences.
We groan about the differences or flaws in our partners, but thank goodness! You don't really want someone who likes the exact same food, music, books, and movies, and uses the same perfect towel-folding technique you do. The differences are what keep us learning, and the little flaws in one another are the unique parts worth loving.
You know what winning in love is? Finding happiness in the floor models of love: as is. So sit back and enjoy your date or partner for who they are, full of little imperfections and big differences. Whether you're with them for two hours or twenty years, the differences in love are what make life most interesting. 10 Dating Mindsets Sabotaging Your Love Life
5. Hey, you learn something new in love every day.
If you had a bad date or a bad fight today, at least you'll know how to do things differently tomorrow. No rough moment in relationships is for naught if you gain wisdom and insight from the experience. The Single Most Important Piece Of Advice When Looking For Love [VIDEO]
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As I say in Bright Side Up, if you can't see a benefit in your present, then you're at least giving a present to your future. Be grateful for it all. Every single thing you see, do, and maybe slip-up on in love is a lesson and a gift to the future you. In other words, better love next time!
For more ways to see life's silver linings, check out Bright Side Up: 100 Ways to Be Happier Right Now, get the companion brand new companion iPhone and iPad app Bright Side App, sign up for Amy Spencer's weekly Vitamin Optimism email and visit her blog TheLifeOptimist.com. Follow Amy on Twitter at datingoptimist
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