This article, although not designed to generalize, describes several types of men to consider not partnering with and why. The stories gathered here are some caveats from women who have been there and may help save you some time and energy in your pursuit. The stories are not intended to offend you and they may even remind you of or sound like your brother, friend or boyfriend. They are offered for you to take from them what works for you and leave the rest.
1. The Separated and Fancy-free Guy.
Jill was delighted when she met George. He was interesting and funny, a stand up comedian by night and a geology professor by day. They dated in an old fashioned way at first. It was enjoyable. That, in itself, may have been positive for Jill to experience. However, on their fifth date, when George told Jill that he was married, she was shocked. He didn't act like a married man.
He went on to explain how he was separated and the marriage had been over emotionally for a long while. He justified it by the fact that he had slept on the couch for the last several months before moving out the week before the two of them started dating. Should she have run then?
Probably but she didn't. The chemicals of attraction were strong between them and she really liked him at the time. She soon found out he had three children. They dated and it became more serious. He wanted to "show her off" to his friends. She was younger than him and very attractive. He was thrilled.
One night, as she was making him dinner in her home, his wife called. They dueled verbally over the phone for a few minutes. Much to Jill's disgust, he stood in her bedroom while calling his wife cruel names. Should she have run then? 6 Ways To Spark An Office Romance
She still didn't. And so, the experience ended months later with Jill feeling that she had been used for her youth and for sex. Even though George would have never agreed with that, the proof was in the fact that he was not interested in getting into a serious relationship. He was sewing his wild oats. Again, in his fifties.
After the fact, Jill felt truly sorry for his soon to be ex wife. Stunted growth and immaturity were rampant with this man who could have used the time he was separated to work on himself and become more emotionally mature. Instead, he trolled for sex that he could not feel guilty about because he entered into a relationship for it.
This kind of man usually considers himself "a good guy." He will take you out on fun dates and will behave in a way that indicates he is evolved and conscious. Be wary, though, as he may very well not be. Men who are leaving or have recently left marriages or long term relationships, if emotionally mature, will usually take some time to process and learn before moving on to the next real relationship. Don't be the separated and fancy-free guy's rebound unless you are fully conscious about it and even then, think twice.
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