Survival Kit for Dating in a Hectic World

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Survival Kit for Dating in a Hectic World
Learn tips to honor yourself and actually have fun while dating!

Have many of your dates amounted to nothing?  If you are dating today, probably!  Sometimes, it seem like a waste of time and energy?  For sure.  And yet, you have to date to meet someone worth meeting, right?  Even though you are enjoying the freedom and fun of single life and are not nescessarily in a rush to find a long term partner, you still want to date quality people and have a satisfying love life.
Consider Spiritual Dating - the solution for busy women!  It is how to date in a hectic world!   Spiritual Dating is for you if you are looking for a new paradigm in dating and you want to create more self love in your life.  Cause that is the key to it: self love
In this case, spiritual doesn’t mean religous.  It means conscious, mindful.  Maybe you like yoga, helping preserve the environment, and you are self-aware.  You probably like to explore different forms of spirituality like chinese medicine and the tao, aureveyda and hindi culture, or Unity Churches.
To date in a hectic world and be a spiritual dater a few things must be in place.
First, you must cultivate self love.  Self love is the key to a satisfying love life!  Strengthen yourself to attract the best dates and have the most fun!  Choose you!  It is always all about you - even when it is about your dating life.  Everything improves when you deal self love into the game.  Your life grows more meaningful when you love yourself and that includes your love life.
By loving yourself you take the need out of dating.  Instead, you are happy and fulfilled on your own.  And a great date or relationship is just the icing on the cake.  With a healthy level of self love you guarantee your own overall happiness - dates or no.  That same self love transforms you into a compelling and alluring prospective date.  In the beginning of dating and relationships an air of self reliance and a bit of mystery makes you super interesting.  Guys love when you have your own life and are happy, especially emotionally healthy guys.  Your presence enhances their fulfilling life and vice versa and then you have a healthy relationship.
Second, you must consider yourself sacred. You can create a happy, healthy life by remembering that you are sacred.  Sacred means precious, special, a treasure of true beauty - that’s you!
If you consider yourself sacred, you know you can trust yourself.  You know that you are going to make great decisions that honor you.  In that way, you can feel emotionally safe.  You can create that for yourself.  
Third, you must consider your dates to be sacred.  If you can’t see your date as sacred, then they aren’t the right person for you.  You can create a pleasurable, loving relationship by remembering your partner is sacred and not settling for a partner who doesn’t see your sacredness.  Sacredness is the key!
Finally, your dates must see themselves and you as sacred.  You can usually figure this out by date number three.  Be observant and notice how your date talks about himself  Does he engage in lots of negative self talk?  If so, he doesn’t see himself as sacred. 

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