Instead of falling into these traps, show up in your relationships fully aware so that your choices are conscious, not just repetition of what comes naturally. Get clear on exactly what you want your relationship to feel like. Make your own happiness so that you don't keep someone else on the hook for it. And give freely of yourself, no matter what, with no agenda.
Consider these a-ha’s to be relationship pain-deterrent. The formula — as I've experienced myself and seen in many others — for becoming a recovered relationship sufferer. They are well worth your effort, trust me.
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