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Unleash The Divine Power Of YOUR Inner Sex Goddess


So you wanna be a Sex Goddess? Be doted on and fawned over, rubbed and nourished, fucked and fed?

Here is something to know about a Sex Goddess: she never feels bad about her desires and she has no reason to hold herself back. She is unabashed in her desires and she gets her prowess on without guilt or shame.

A sex goddess goes for it, she does not withhold from life for SHE is life itself.

You are no different. We are all that life force, that pulsating aliveness, that gift of energy combustion and creation. We are here to beautify this place in ecstasy, to drink its nectar and reverberate that truly magical vibe back into the world.

It's the juice. It's the life. It's the joy. It's the orgasm. It's in each one of us. This power of pleasure.

Yet people hold back from this energy all the time. They avoid getting too close to the fiery flame. They want to stay safe. Secure. They are afraid of vulnerability, of feeling too much, of being seen and heard. Yet the world needs to hear your ecstatic song. Sing baby!

If you could let yourself sing full-out and experience the fullness of your sexuality, you would be drinking in life itself. You would be fully living. To think you will fully live while ignoring or leaving your sexuality behind is like cutting off your feet to walk.

Your sexuality is the divine vehicle of your full self-expression, feeling and meaning. It is the core of who you are and it is there—even if it's gone subterranean and you can't see it or feel it. You just forgot. The spark is there, waiting for your flare to dance with it.

You have to get out of your own way so you can fully experience it. You are the one stopping yourself from claiming your desire in life, in love, and in sex. Most people are in a constant state of avoidance.

Avoiding things they don't want to face, conversations they don't want to have. Avoiding getting too close or feeling too much because then what? Maybe I'll be out on a limb of pure pulsating life and that sounds scary.

Maybe it will be the climax of feeling, and then what? What if I can't go any further? Let me stay back here where I can keep wondering what it feels like over there in full-out feeling and being.

Ask yourself what you are avoiding and why? And then ask again. No really. What am I avoiding underneath all those fears? Is this how I want to live? Is this how I claim desire?

There is comfort for some in staying in the fog of not knowing. If I don't know then I don't have to do anything. If I don't know then I have no responsibility for it. If I don't know then I don't have to answer to anyone, least of whom, myself. If I don't know, then I have an excuse for not living fully.

For many women, they are so used to being the damsel that they stay the damsel. Even the strong women who play like they are not damsels underneath. At the end of the day, they want someone else to do it, to take care of it, to fix it. They don't want to have to be the one.

But your life is your own and at the end of the game, it is only you, so you better learn what "just me" is like right now. Then you'll never fear being alone again. A Goddess knows she is never truly alone and yet she is confident about her sovereign journey.

If you want to sparkle your life with sexy energy you have got to open. You have got to push through the fear and see what is over there in the glitter garden. Breathe more. Smell the flowers, take the wind into your skin like a lover's touch. Swim naked. Let the sun dance upon your body. Be in your body. Come home.

Turn off the gadgets and read a sexy story. Be really present with the one you are with. Ask them something unexpected. Rid yourself of the boring questions. Ask something bigger of them, of yourself, of life.

Tell your fantasy. Star in it. What is there in the space you create when you tune into what is here and right now? It is in that space you will find ecstasy.

And that longing in you? What does it want? Stop suppressing your own desires. Acknowledge them. Own them. Be with them. Feed them. They are guiding you to live your own life more fully. Those desires want to dance with you.

Your desire would not be there without its fulfillment also showing up. You get to have it, but you have to go for it. Your desires are not empty, they are real. Say "yes" to them. Say "yes" to you.

Orgasm is no small thing. It is deep and meaningful. It is the space where our physical bodies meet the divine in full self-expression. It's a rich, emotional space where the lines between the worlds can get blurry and deep transcendence is possible.

Once a person knows the power of her own orgasm, she walks in the world a little bit differently. There is a deep well of horsepower in reaching those edges of your own body's capability. There is no need to run from that energy or to suppress it.

It is part of your birthright. It is the Goddess reaching through you and mystifying the human world. We are. That powerful.

If every orgasm were created equal, it would lose its luster. We'd have nothing to strive toward in our own pleasure journey. That depth is possible...not everyone will be like that, but until you become a student of ecstasy, you just won't know what it is. Let's commune.

This article was originally published at Kate Allure. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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