Are Adult Films Really Just For Men?

Just as children like to be entertained by fictional characters and fairy tales, men like to be entertained by “adult fairy tales” as well. While children movies have an array of emotional highs and lows, fears and triumphs and a most always “happy ending”…so does an adult film. But what is it about the adult film that disturbs so many women?

Simply put, it's just not good enough to fulfill women’s fantasies. There's plenty of evidence that women would be huge viewers and consumers of pornography if only it was aimed at them. The majority of the pleasing is for the male audience. Some say that the other difficulty is the problem women have with female competition. 'Women feel insecure about other attractive women. They might see a good-looking woman in the tape and think, "How could I compete with her?" They can't project themselves into the tape and wipe the woman out of the way like a man would. Women are wired differently.

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Often, when one partner enjoys watching porn, the other partner begins to feel insecure that they are not good enough, not sexy or pretty enough or they accuse the spouse of having a sex addiction. To a man it is not about what he is not getting from his mate, it is a plain and simple turn on.

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“Girl with a one track mind” sex blogger agrees. She publicly says that erotica and porn are great for stimulation. "I like porn. "But I think we need to take control of it as women, and make better porn."

Maybe what she is saying is correct. Maybe what we need is more foreplay, more romance, more kissing, cuddling and talking after sex scenes. And more of a story line would be nice also. During the basis of the sex, the actions could be the same as they would otherwise, but adding a bit of a feminine touch couldn’t hurt. Would you, as a female, watch porn if there were more of a softer, feminine approach to the scenes?