Pay It Forward

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Pay It Forward
Heal your heart by paying it forward.

No matter what broke your heart; a divorce, a break-up, a separation, or even a death, time heals all wounds. We all have choices, we all have situations, but we all have one thing in common. We all have a heart. Broken or not, no matter how bad you are hurting, some one else is hurting more than you. If we can remember this, we may be able to "give" a tiny piece of our heart to someone. And when we give, we always receive. It is called Karma, and whether you believe in it or not, I believe it definitely exists.

My friend Megan called me crying one evening. Her heart was aching after her husband walked out on her. As I listened to her cry, I wanted to reach through the phone and wipe away her tears. Her heartache was so real, and so deep. At a loss for words, I referred myself back to a remedy for pain my grandmother taught me years ago. My grandmother's words changed my life.

Nervous and weary, I quickly stopped Megan in her tracks and said, "Do you have your health, healthy children, a roof over your head, and food on the table?" "Yes," she replied. And there, my grandmother's speech rolled off my tongue… "Somewhere out there; someone's heart is breaking more than yours. Somewhere out there, someone does not have any of those, or only has one of those blessings." Her tears stopped. Although her heart was broken, she now had a choice on how she was going to handle her situation. We continued talking and I brought her to the "Pay It Forward" theory. When you receive, you give something back to someone, you "Pay It Forward" and you keep giving. Before you know it, you will have received. Maybe not what you want, but you will receive what you need.

Our conversation ended on a positive note, and Megan began to give with what little happiness she had, with the small amount of pride that was left in her soul. It was awkward at first, but after a few days, she started to feel better. We met for coffee two weeks later. Turns out, within that short span of time, Megan had donated food to the local food drive and given away her soon-to-be ex's clothing to a charity. She started to realize, that although she was broken, someone out there was worse off than she. My grandmother, once again, had taught the "Pay it Forward" theory to someone, this time through me. Whenever someone smiles, Megan now smiles back and then smiles at the next person. For every door held open for her, Megan holds the door open for the next several people. It became fun, and it filled her heart with joy. Slowly but surely, inch by inch, the focus was taken off Megan's pain, and was outwardly given to others.

With the holidays approaching, you do not have to be alone. Small acts of kindness go a long way! Here are a few things you can do to keep busy, and "Pay It Forward":
1) Donate to a food or coat drive:

Food and coat drives are always looking for donations. Keep busy and clean out your attic, your closets, and your pantry. Check your local Pennysaver for any community fundraisers, and donate your unwanted items. You should feel some sort of comfort inside knowing you helped someone in need. Not only have you kept busy cleaning and sorting, and making room for your "new" life, you have helped someone in the interim. It is a win-win concept.

2) Volunteer at a local shelter:

This article was originally published at Shine. Reprinted with permission.
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