Have you had one too many hangovers? Can’t stop popping Excedrin? Are you walking through life numb, stoned, and drunk? Are you having one night stands, partying like a rock star? In most cases, you may be putting your self at risk for a DWI, STDs or possible reckless endangerment of someone’s life. We see it all the time, in the magazines, when “stars” break up or divorce. At some point, either someone intervened, or they asked for help, because weeks later they look fabulous and are back to being on top of their world. Do you fear you are being a burden if you ask for help? One phone call to the right friend and you will realize your fears were all in your head. You are not alone. Are you thinking to yourself, “what if they say no”? Will it feel like some one is judging you now on your worth? This is something in our own head. How many times have you offered to help others? If you believe in Karma, the payback is always tenfold. If you take a deep breath, and pick up the phone to ask for help, within moments you will feel relived, the fear of rejection will be dissolved, and your first step in a positive direction has just begun. Failure is only a fact when you give up. Being defeated is only temporary. Everyone gets knocked down, the question is: Will you get back up? You will if you say those three words.
3) You are stalking your ex’s Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, and/or you are overly texting and emailing him/her.
So, you have not “de-friended” each other yet, and you find yourself obsessed with what your ex-partner was doing, or where they were, or who their new friends are? Or are you texting and emailing, begging him or her to come back, or threatening and manipulating? When it has become an obsession, you need to stop and ask for help. At this point you have to look yourself in the mirror, and realize that you must embrace the separation. It is time to “do you”. Worry about yourself and your life only. The drama and saga has you sucked in, and your self pity has gotten a hold of you. You are better than that. You only live once. Ask your friends or family for help, text a friend to go for coffee, not for the latest gossip, but your real friends will help you to de-friend this person, and only help you. Lean on your support group, and live graciously. When you look back one day, you will see the self respect you had for yourself that you let go. It is an empowering feeling when you respect yourself enough to say those three words! "When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us."
4) You're not showering, not wearing makeup, and generally not taking care of yourself.