Every woman deserves to have a great sex life - even if she does not have an accessible partner. If you currently don't have a companion, you can still enjoy extraordinary pleasure and passionate intimacy on your own. You have the power and ability to provide that for yourself!
The first step is learning to truly love and appreciate your body – inside and out. Far too many women stare grimly in the mirror, criticizing every curve and wrinkle, without ever recognizing their own natural, delicious divinity winking back at them. Too many women depend on the external validation of a man to supply them with self-esteem, love, nurturing and empowerment that we all crave. However what we sometimes don’t realize, is that sense of security, love, nourishment and power is already within us. This is our divine feminine gift – our rite to enjoy and express the marvelous essence of who we truly are.
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“Every beauty which is seen by persons of perception resembles more than anything else that celestial source from which we all are come.” - Michelangelo (1475-1564) Italian painter, sculptor, architect, and poet
Many women today are all too often completely cut off from the divine feminine, and may not even understand the concept. Rather than being taught to look within, they are left struggling to find an identity in the eyes of outsiders. They’re taught that sex is a commodity to be manufactured and sold in the sexual marketplace. The media determines what is sexy, beautiful, socially acceptable, right, wrong, good and bad. We are spoon-fed what to think and how to act based on our major influences, which generally happen to be unrealistic or outrageous social stereotypes.
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What does this all have to do with self pleasuring? For women, sex can be a sacred rite of self-empowerment and passionate connection with our own inner beauty. And despite the fairy tales and romance novels, sexual awakening is an experience that doesn’t depend on someone else to do it for you. Orgasm is a gift, whether you’re sharing it with someone else, or giving it to yourself. To be able to enjoy masturbation and to bring yourself to orgasm is a natural and beautiful activity. It can be a type of meditation that evokes immense physical pleasure, as well as a sense of personal power. It may also offer self-assurance in that we don’t necessarily need a man to enjoy sexual intimacy.
We can all have juicy, empowering, divinely delicious sex lives – with or without a partner! And the side effect of all that self-loving is that we become more secure in our own sexuality. Masturbation takes practice and experimentation to determine our own personal preferences in what we enjoy. When we recognize our own joy and freedom in this liberating act of self-indulgence, we step into the creative field of pure potential in unrestrained blissful ecstasy. We can use the wisdom of the body and the power of our own passion to fuel anything that we desire to create.