Men and women can be so completely opposite sometimes in how they think, act and communicate. They might as well be from different planets! We’ve all heard the old saying, Women are from Venus. Men are from Mars. Well there is a lot more to that aphorism that dates back several centuries – not suggesting that we come from other planets, rather our universal gender traits stem from ancient archetypes from Greek mythology; the goddess Venus and the god Mars.
Actually his name was Ares, god of War in Greek Mythology. His Roman name was Mars, in which the planet was named after since the fourth planet shines with a red color, resembling blood. Ares, god of war, represented brutal force, as he enjoyed the battles and the bloodshed and he didn’t really care about fighting for a good cause – and he wasn’t always the winner. He is characterized as the god who took a savage delight in slaughter, and the hordes of slain upon the battlefield filled him with a fierce joy. Even being rough and aggressive, he was quite handsome and had many love affairs with goddesses or with mortals.
Ares most famous love was Aphrodite, Greek goddess of love, (also known as Venus). The planet Venus was named after this magnificent goddess, as it is considered the brightest and most beautiful star in the heavens. This iconic couple had several sons: Deimos (terror) and Phobos (fear), who accompanied their father in battle, as well as, Armonia (harmony) and Eros (love) – also known as the plump baby Cupid armed with his bow and arrows of love and passion. Isn’t it interesting how many current English words stemmed from these names and stories? The union of Mars and Venus represents absolute balance – yin and yang. And that is why, according to the old adage, opposites attract.
Since the dawn of humanity, women naturally embody certain character traits of having unconditional love, compassion, kindness, empathy and the tendency to nurture and caring for others as portrayed with the Venus archetype. And like Mars (Ares), men generally tend to be more aggressive, confrontational, tenacious, insensitive and ego-driven. With women being more heart-centered and emotional, while men are visual and mental, how can we find balance in our relationships?
Men and women usually have different ways of communicating, problem-solving, parenting and socially interacting – even with love-making. Even though there is an instinctive attraction between men and women, we may have different ideas in how we enjoy intimacy. Some like it soft, gentle and slow. Others may like it hard, fast and rough. Sometimes it just depends on the mood and situation. It is necessary to communicate what you like, what turns you on and how you like it. Then you can explore each other’s suggestions in efforts to please one another.
Despite the differences between men and women, we always manage to come together one way or another for a brief time, or a long-term relationship. It is human nature to be in relatioship and a healthy balance of our own masculine and feminie with us. We tend to be more whole when we have a counter-balance to reflect our greatness and also our weaknesses. I personally feel that life is much better when we have a partner to share it with.