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Is a Medically-Supervised Diet Right for You?


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Dieting to lose weight for a special occasion? What you should know before starting any extreme diet

You want to look beautiful for your wedding or some other event, and you want a guarantee of losing a certain number of pounds. 

The truth is, the only way to achieve that is by doing an extreme diet that severely cuts your calories and having something help you to maintain that diet to reach your goal.  Which is why the feeding tube diet has its advocates and Jessica Schnaider chose it for herself.  But is it – or any other medically-supervised diet - right for you?  Is it the right thing to do for your health?  Or will it really make you happy in the end? 

Nicole wanted to lose weight and joined a program offered by her doctor.  She was given a liquid diet of 800 calories a day plus supplements for eight weeks before her wedding.  Nicole lost so much weight, her dress had to be reconstructed to fit her new size.  She loved how she looked, and walked down the aisle feeling beautiful.  Yet only two weeks later, she was struggling to get into her skinny jeans again, and she was feeling guilty about how quickly she was regaining the weight.  

She was embarrassed, didn’t want her husband to see or touch her, and she avoided the camera.  When she learned she was pregnant a few months later, her excitement was short term.  The baby wasn’t developing properly because, unknown to her, she had become diabetic.  After losing the baby, she turned to food to comfort herself.  On her first wedding anniversary, she couldn’t look at her wedding pictures.  She was angry with herself for becoming so fat, the strain in her marriage and losing her baby. 

It doesn’t have to end like this. 

Losing weight and feeling good about yourself feels amazing, and for some people that feeling is worth the extreme dieting experience even if it only lasts a couple of days or a few weeks.  For most people, however, it isn’t worth it. 

Extreme diets cause a lower metabolism, malnutrition and muscle loss. When the diet is over, your mind wants all the foods you were deprived of and your body shifts into a fat-storing mode.  The result is inevitable: overeating, eating unhealthy foods, higher body fat levels and significant weight gain. 

Would it be worth it to you?   Have you ever seen pictures when you were slimmer and then found yourself angry or upset with your current weight?  What happened then?  Did you get motivated to get back into shape or did you turn to emotional eating or shift into denial and give up?  Was it worth it to do a radical diet only to put on more weight afterwards? 

Perhaps for you there is a better way than extreme dieting to feel beautiful on your special day.

You can feel beautiful by focusing your attention on all the things that your future spouse loves about you.  Go ahead and ask him (or her) for a list of 5 things they adore about you.  While you are at it, ask others the same question.  You will then have a list of your best assets, which are what really matter to the people who love you.  Surprise, surprise, most of those assets are your personality. 

The most beautiful people are not drop-dead gorgeous, skinny or perfect.  They are people with a big heart, who radiate an inner self-love and self-confidence.  They make others feel good about themselves, and they are delightful to have around. 

In contrast, those who are focused on dieting, being skinnier and trying to be perfect are often insecure and focused on themselves.  They are not always so nice to have around, particularly when they are self-critical or judging others. 

The key to beauty and looking your best is by highlighting your assets, loving yourself as you are, making healthier lifestyle choices that aren't extreme, and smiling.  A genuine engaging smile, no matter what your weight, is stunning and beautiful in photographs.  A year later, you won’t be comparing yourself to pictures of an ideal you may never reach again.  Instead, you will remember how much fun you had, how loved you felt, and how beautiful the day was. 

So think twice before doing the feeding tube diet.  Most extreme diets are medically supervised, but that doesn’t make them healthy or safe.  Doctors don’t have a good track record in helping patients maintain their weight loss when the diet ends.  In fact, nearly all patients regain the weight and end up heavier with a higher body fat percentage.  Many also find themselves at higher risk for diabetes and heart disease.  Be sure you know the facts, and be sure you know yourself before choosing any radical weight loss program. 

For more tips on how to feel good in your body and be free of dieting, get a free e-book on how to Feel Your Personal Best from our expert. 

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