8 Ways to Keep Motivated: Which Hurt Your Relationship?

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8 Ways to Keep Motivated: Which Hurt Your Relationship?
It’s not easy staying motivated – particularly exercise. What does your approach say about you?

Getting Gold Stars:  You like being recognized for being good and getting rewarded for your achievements, even small ones.  If you could get a gold star for every time you exercised, you would love that.  Even better, you want them on a big wall calendar that everyone can see.  You want the pats on the back, and if you don’t get them, you aren’t sure you would stay as motivated to continue.  You also like it when your sweetie notices the little things you do, and thanks you for them.

Keeping Accountable:  You need the accountability to stay on track, so you hire trainers, join classes, get a buddy or have a coach.  You know yourself well enough to realize it helps to be accountable to someone else, even though you wish you could simply account to yourself.  You know your strengths and limitations, and you know when to ask for help and support.  As a result, you are more likely to be supportive or offer to help your significant other to reach their goals.

Checking It Off:  You like lists and checking things off as done.  It is a good feeling to get things accomplished and know you have taken care of yourself or someone else.  You are responsible, know what you want to achieve, and usually succeed in completing most things on the list.  And what doesn’t get done today gets put on the list for tomorrow; it doesn’t get forgotten.  Yet it can slip for days or even weeks, and then you usually put it at the top of the list as a priority so you get back on track.  You give yourself some leeway, knowing it will get done and keep things in perspective.  Or you berate yourself and stop putting it on the list for a while, feeling guilty and hoping your partner doesn't notice or say anything.

Loving the Feeling:  You love how great it feels to be active and fit.  You don’t need any more motivation than that to get outside, go for a run, stop at the gym or participate in sports.  The more active you are, the more active you want to be, and you surround yourself with others who feel the same way.  Most likely you are involved with someone who can’t wait to join you on a bike ride or go on an active vacation.  Being active is a big part of who you are and your lifestyle.


There are many different ways to be motivated to exercise and keep fit.  You may find you have more styles than you realized or that you want to try new motivation techniques to mix things up.  You may even discover that trying a new motivation approach gives you more empathy for your sweetheart and greater confidence in yourself. 

For more tips on how to stay motivated and exercise regularly, get a free e-book on how to Feel Your Personal Best from our expert.
 

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