Which Part of 'Bad Boy' Was Unclear, Sandra Dear?

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Looks like: Style, baby, style.

Reality: Narcissism and vanity.

You get: Player tendencies; mistreatment; self-absorption.

6) Evasiveness.
When a man is evasive -- especially about dating, the women in his life, the length of relationships and such -- beware. He may be doing it for sport, but chances are he has something to hide. Good relationships are based on honesty, trust and respect. Chronic evasiveness precludes all three, so this is an inauspicious start to things.

Looks like: Mystery and intrigue.

Reality: Skeletons in the closet.

What you're signing up for: Unreliability, mistrust, lies.

7) Lack of consideration.
Did he ask you out far enough in advance so you'd be able to make plans? Did he call to say he was going to be late? Did he open your car door for you? Did he offer to pay when he invited you out? Did he ask about your sick cat? How about your sick grandmother? How about when you were sick? Does he offer you his coat when you look cold? I'm belaboring the point here, which is this: you know what consideration looks like, and it's different from when a guy's being a jerk to you. Any one of these things is not a big deal, but a bunch of them happening in close succession is a sign.

Looks like: Non-conformity, roguish independence.

Reality: You're dealing with a jerk.

You get: see Devil-may-care attitude above.

So if you're looking for fulfilling relationships, know what you want, know what you're getting yourself into, and check to see if they match up. In the long run, it's the formula for less pain and more joy.

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