5 Sure-Fire Ways To Ruin Your Relationship

Instead, take a deep breath, consider if there is truth in any aspect of what your partner is saying and accept responsibility. Stop giving feedback if you aren't willing to hear it in return and make real changes.

5. You expect perfection from your partner rather than remembering we are all perfectly imperfect. Learn to pick your battles wisely. We can't get everything from one person nor can they from us. We've all been on the receiving end of being around someone with whom it feels you can do nothing good nor fast enough. Lighten up where you can, both with yourself and your partner and this alone will create fresh air in a relationship that is feeling smothered under the weight of unrealistic expectations. The Secret To Better Relationships

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Alexandra Saperstein, LPC, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist at Advanced Trained Gottman Couples Therapist in Portland, Oregon providing counseling and coaching resources to individuals and couples in need. You can find more resources at http://www.alexandrasaperstein.com .