SO HOW DO YOU KEEP IT SEXY AND FUN (READ: NOT AWKWARD)?
By Alex Matlock
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If you've never done this before, talking dirty can be a bit difficult at the start. Initially, the whole point would be to not leave your partner's comfort zone. As things will progress you should both work towards pushing those boundaries and leaving your comfort zones behind.
In order to better understand each other's comfort zones, you can ask yourself this simple question, "Are we comfortable talking about sex?" Unfortunately, if you can't talk about sex outside of the bedroom, you're going to have a hard time talking about it (dirty or otherwise) in the bedroom. Most men are usually receptive to small amounts of dirty talk, but some guys can lose more than their focus when they're put on the spot. That's why it's always better to test things out in the beginning. Keep well within both of your comfort zones while feeling free to explore.
"Do you like it?" This should be the very first thing you say during sex. It will test both of your limits and it will also test your partner without freaking him out because he only has to reply with a simple, "Mm-hmm."
Depending on how comfortable you are, you can quickly move things along. You can probe further by saying, "Tell me what you'd like to do to me." Test him and see if he's enjoying this.
If you're the more daring, describe exactly what you want (but still keeping it modest). Guys love it when you tell them what to do. By then, it's time to really push those boundaries and step outside your comfort zones. "You feel so goooood inside me," "I love how hard you are," "Do you feel how wet I am?"
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Just remember, the whole point of talking dirty is exploring your desires with your partner while staying in your comfort zone (but maybe pushing out of it just a little).