It’s Friday night, you’re out with your friends, you see this guy giving you the "I’m so into you look" but for some reason he doesn’t approach you. The night goes on, you catch eyes a few more times but he still hasn’t made a move. It’s common sense that the guy should approach the girl so, why isn’t this guy approaching you? Well, men have a lot of insecurities and it takes a lot of courage to actually approach a woman. While I can admit that he didn’t approach you because he didn’t have the guts to do so, more often than not you can help him make the first step, simply by sending the right signals.
So, how can you get him to approach you? What is it that you’re doing wrong that stops the males from coming over for a conversation? When it comes to being more approachable, things like you’re attitude, stance, friends, expression, energy and finally body language, play a crucial role in the way you present yourself to men and are the key denominators behind a guys approach decision. This being said, if you want to become more approachable, pay close attention to the rest of this article.
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Attitude is incredibly important because it decides what types of men you attract. Basically, what you expect will happen, will actually end up happening. For example, if you go out with your friends and all of you strongly believe that all men are bastards, you project an "all men are bastards" attitude.
Guys that aren’t bastards won’t approach you because they can smell this a mile away, they see that you aren’t happy and thus avoid any unpleasant encounters. On the other hand, the men that will approach you will be the ones that don’t care about your attitude, don’t care about how you feel. Which means they will inevitably be, the bastards.
You might think that the bitchy girl gets all the guys, but in reality she only gets the bastards. Truth is, there’s nothing more attractive than a woman with an uplifting attitude, a happy woman. It’s the same with men. Would you date that guy that thinks all women are "bitches?" Exactly. Go out with a happy and healthy attitude towards men and you’ll have a much higher chance of attracting a high-quality guy in your life.
If you’re out there to meet guys, why would you act like you’re out there to do anything else? Wanting to meet someone doesn’t make you a slut. It just makes you a person. If you’re trying to maintain some image for whatever reason, think about how that is actually keeping you from getting what you want. Be happy about wanting to meet someone and drop your ego, it’s only going to work against you.
This is fairly straight forward. If you want a guy to approach you, act like it. Don’t cross your arms, don’t fidget, don’t look the other way etc. Remember, you want to look happy so don’t be afraid to smile. Don’t walk around with a sad grin on your face acting like you’re not enjoying yourself. Don’t be afraid to make eye contact with men you find attractive. Give them a warm and inviting gaze. Let them know that you’re interested and they will approach you. Avoid looking down at the floor or above people’s heads, look straight so you can make eye contact.
This can be traced back to the attitude issue, but it’s always great if a woman can seem inviting. Basically, you’re inviting a guy to come over and talk to you and when he does you act inviting towards the conversation. When I approach women, I always have a much better and easier time with a woman that "helps" me interact with her. If she’s just negative about our interaction, it just makes it that much more difficult to continue the conversation. So, if a guy that you find attractive, musters up the courage to come and talk to you, act inviting and he’ll be much more likely to stay.
Drop Your Guard:
In this day and age, everyone in a "social situation" (bar/club) has a sort of social guard. Guys defend themselves by acting cocky or super important while women defend themselves by acting bitchy or super obnoxious. Sadly, at the end of the night, all of these well guarded individuals end up going home drunk, horny, disappointed and alone.
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Someone that isn’t so well guarded is always respected or even envied by other people because everyone wishes they could act like that. Everyone wishes they could be real, but for some reason they just put up this guard that destroys their social interactions. You don’t need to drop this guard all the time for everyone. But drop it around the people you actually like, the guys you feel attracted to. In order meet someone that is genuine, you need to first be genuine yourself. Don’t be afraid to be the first person that shares a personal story. If you want people to be fun and open, be fun and open with them. Keep Reading...
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