How Do Men Fall In Love?
By Alex Matlock. Posted on .
We all might feel the same things when we are in love but, the journey to love is an entirely different experience. When women fall in love, they are filled with bursts of happiness and other mixed feelings a man will never be able to comprehend, men on the other hand, are completely different.
You see, unlike women, that experience intense surges of affections as soon as they meet a guy, men feel something completely different when they meet a woman.
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This article is here to show you the phases and the journey a man goes trough before he eventually loves a woman.
Phase 1. The “I Like You” Phase
Unfortunately, men are very shallow creatures. This initial stage is all about instant physical attraction. If you ever thought a guy was initially attracted by your personality; you were wrong.
Some women may fall in love during the first conversation but sadly, in the beginning stages, men are only attracted by a woman’s physical appearance.
Don’t be fooled by the “physical appearance” statement. It does NOT mean the whole package. Every man is different and likes different things about a woman. For example, most men are attracted by breasts (may it be small or large) and also by your curvy behind (again, may it be small or large). More sophisticated men (and usually more mature) are attracted by smaller things such as lips, eyes, nose and even the way you gracefully move or act in the presence of a man…it’s never about the whole package but more about our specific appeal in women.
Sometimes a guy may not even realize what appeals to him in a woman but, if he does find something appealing, he will begin the “I Like You” phase.
Phase 2. The Scouting Phase
Most guys like a lot of women simultaneously. Because of that, they will “scout” and see which one of them will respond to their advances. Yes, we men try to get as many women as we can, at any given time. It’s only when a person has passed the “scouting” phase (by accepting our small advances) that we begin to focus our attention only on her.
These advances are very discreet and are not upfront flirting. We basically need that little confirmation that if we do start to chase you, something will happen.
Even though we like her, in this stage we don’t really care about the outcome so, if she rejects us or doesn’t respond to our advances, we generally don’t feel a thing and move on to other women that we like. Sure, there are exceptions, but generally this is how guys think at this point.
Phase 3. The Chase
If a woman we liked gave even the slightest positive response to our advances, we will start the chase. Sometimes those signs aren’t even obvious, we just believe it in ourselves and start the chase.
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The chase is all about winning your attention. In this stage our aim is to get you to notice us and understand that we are into you. Once this becomes clear and you have given us a shot (by agreeing to go out with us), we move into the next phase.
Phase 4. The “I’m Going To Impress You” Phase
