He starts to tell you how beautiful you are, how incredibly fascinating you are, how amazingly funny you are. He tells you that he sees a future here; he even tells you that he’s ready to be exclusive with a girl like you because you’re just that great.
All of this on the first date!
Now, let me ask this: how do you feel about this man?
Most women will immediately HATE him. Why? Because he’s needy, he doesn’t even see you for who you are, because he’s just projecting his desire to be with someone, onto you.
It doesn’t matter if he’s just being himself and hoping you’ll give him a chance, you won’t give him a chance because he doesn’t have any value in your eyes.
So, don’t you think this is exactly how a man feels when you are infatuated with him and he stops calling? You’re so impressed with him that there’s no challenge, no need for hard work. Basically, it’s all just of matter of him saying “when”.
The secret lies in your perceived value.
The more he has to work for you, the higher your perceived value. If he doesn’t have to work, then there’s no perceived value. Men love the chase and you have to make the chase part of you dating routine. It doesn’t matter how you feel about a guy, if there’s no chase, then there’s no guy.
I’m not saying it’s essential to play games but it is essential to have a high perceived value. If you’re overwhelmed with emotions, don’t show them. If you are not sure about how you’re going to behave on the next date, postpone the date until you feel more relaxed.
When you find a guy you really like, play it cool.
Do not let him know that you like him so much. Make him work for you. Put those emotions aside and start acting like you do when you’re with your best friends. Be your confident, playful, self assured self. You have a much better chance of getting somewhere with a guy you actually like if you’re your BEST self than if you’re that needy, overly excited version of you.
Finally, try not to judge men so hard for doing the exact same things that you do on a date. He’s just being honest and there’s nothing wrong with that, right?
I honestly believe that a guy who is excited around you is going to be much better long term than that guy who is NOT excited around you. Even though you might see this as a sign of weakness (and it may very well be) when it comes something meaningful and long term, this guy might actually be better than the rest. So, do your best not to hold it against him.
It’s easy to judge a guy for being needy around you, for being into you too much. But, it’s not always that easy to see when you’re being the same way.