Ah, the ever-elusive sex drive. In the first few months of a relationship, there it is, and all we can is think about is our lover’s voice, touch and getting into bed. But after a few months, when the love hormones subside and the bonding hormones emerge (or ... they don't), most couples will find themselves fighting a lack of sex drive. What used to be several times a week —or day— diminishes and perhaps continues to diminish. At least, that is, until you make a move to do something about it.
Passion Play: Tips, Toys, Books and Props That'll Add Spice to Your Sex Life
Boosting your sex drive is one of the most enduring human interests. Just think about the crazy number of pills, powders and drinks that claim to boost flagging libidos and restore lustfulness. Although these claims are generally exaggerated, there are ways to pump up your sex drive. And, fortunately, you don't have to swallow any shady pills from China to do it. Here are some of the more unexpected libido boosters.
We all know it: exercise is good for you. It keeps your heart healthy and helps keep you slim. But did you know that people who exercise regularly have higher sex drives?
A 2010 study showed that people who exercise often display personality traits of sexually successful people: self-assertiveness, social acumen and a dominant side. It all comes back to your metabolism: the better it is, the more you develop those traits … and the sex drive to go with them.
But you don't need to become a "jock" to have fun in bed. Regular, moderate exercise can make all the difference. (Some might also say that time in the bedroom counts for exercise. Read more about it in Skip the Gym, Get in Bed: 7 Health Benefits of Sex.)
Skip the PJs
Getting your Z's in the nude can have a surprising effect on your sex drive. Aside from other health benefits (it can prevent yeast infections in women, improve sleep quality and reduce stress), sleeping naked may also increase your sex drive.
According to a survey of 100,000 people conducted by the University of Washington in Seattle, 34 percent of sexually-satisfied women and 38 percent of satisfied men always sleep in the buff.
Lying skin-to-skin helps your body secrete the intimacy hormone and makes you want to get even closer. And think about it: Your partner is there, naked and available. And so are you. Easy!
Herbal remedies aren’t always as effective as their supporters (and sellers) would like you to believe, but some herbs have actually been studied for their effects on the human body.
Ginkgo biloba may be an effective treatment to increase blood flow to the genitals. It can also alleviate symptoms of depression, both of which are good things if you want a healthy sex life. You can get this Chinese herb in natural health stores.
You could also try garlic. Despite its reputation for warding off the opposite sex (and possibly also lascivious vampires) garlic is believed to benefit sex drive because allicin, an element found in the raw bulb, increases blood flow to the genitals. If you think raw garlic is gross, you can also buy it in practical, smell-free capsules. (Read about more herbal remedies for sexual dysfunction in The Truth About Herbal Sex Pills for Men.) Keep Reading...
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