Stop waiting for luck to be on your side in meeting your mate. You have the power...of thought!
I just read an inspirational email from Richard Simmons whose classes I was taking for a while. If you get a chance, you must, he’s hilarious and I think it’s the most fun I’ve ever had working out and breaking a mean sweat. In fact this is reminder to myself to mark in my calendar when I can take his class next. His email acknowledged how much he can’t believe it’s already March, and frankly, neither can I.
In his fun and silly email he touched upon a topic that I all too often hear being mentioned, which is this idea of “luck.” Okay I’m going to say it, I personally don’t believe in luck. The way most people use the concept or idea of luck, only leaves room for one to assume that either you are lucky or you’re not, or that you’re either born lucky or you’re not. That doesn’t leave much possibility for one to become lucky if they weren’t lucky to begin with. Some women goes as far as thinking that they are just unlucky in love, or not lucky enough to have been born thin, have natural blonde hair or to have been blessed with large breasts.
So I would much rather believe in the power of the unconscious mind. I know, it doesn’t sound as much fun as believing in the idea of luck or one who is just plain lucky, but it’s actually even better! I was doing a little bit of research on Wikipedia and I found some interesting information about luck. Depending on one’s culture, spiritual beliefs or generational family beliefs, how you relate to luck may differ. It also says that luck or fortuity is good or bad fortune in life caused by accident or chance, and attributed by some to reasons of faith or superstition, which happens beyond a person’s control. I’m personally not a superstitious person and in regards to control, I know the only thing we can control is...yes you guessed it…our thoughts.
So assuming that the only thing we can control is our thoughts, then why not believe in luck? It has to do with the power of our unconscious mind. There are some powerful concepts to understand about the unconscious mind in regards to what it does, how it works, and what is important to it. When I talk with clients about the power of their unconscious, what happens is little light bulbs start to go off for them such as “oh that’s why I think these things about myself”, or “now I understand why I have a tendency to attract certain types of men”, or “that makes sense now why I’ve interacted with my past boyfriends a certain way.”
What also surfaces is the beliefs, past memories, and interpretations they are having that are getting in their way of having what they want and being truly happy in a relationship. One thing about your unconscious is that it generates, stores, distributes, and transmits “energy” and it usually does so in the form of a thought. To me this is the scientific basis behind the law of attraction as well as the idea around manifestation. Most of us are visual so we also tend to create pictures in our mind using our imagination whenever we think about something.
So when you assume the worst and that you’re unlucky, how is it that you might be using your thoughts, what you focus on and your brain to support what you really want to experience in your love life? The habit that most people have is focusing on what you don’t want, and by focusing on what you don’t want, guess what you are most likely going to get? In using pictures in your mind that support this thinking, what are you then creating or manifesting in your love life?
It’s also important to know that there is a part of our brain that can’t tell the difference between what is real and what is imagined, it’s a part of the Limbic system. When using our imagination in this way, we then either attract or manifest that which happens in our life. Also on the Wikipedia page for luck, there is a section called “Luck as a self fulfilling prophecy.” This is where Jean-Paul Sartre and Sigmund Freud are mentioned who in essence feel that a belief in luck has more to do with what people think they can control (or not control) in their life as well as the subsequent escape from personal responsibility.
What we think about can impact what we focus on. The same is true for that which we habitually focus on, can impact what we are thinking about the most. You get what you focus on so focus on what you want! You don’t need any such luck for that.