There is a problem out there that is affecting the masses and it’s not being acknowledged. I then start to wonder if anyone else out there is noticing it because it’s one of those taboo topics that people don’t seem to want to admit. It’s an epidemic that unfortunately affects kids and adults alike, men and women. It doesn’t matter your age, your gender, what you do as a profession or even where you grew up. Maybe you were raised in an affluent neighborhood, or maybe you were raised in an environment where there was a constant struggle with money.
It’s apparent in our relationships, the way we hold ourselves back from achieving our dreams, as well as in our relationship to money. Most often we’re not aware of it. When we do notice it, we sometimes wonder, “where did that come from? I’ve never had this before!” It feels like it just crept in from outside of us and all of a sudden showed up.
It comes in many forms and affects not only the many thoughts that we have about ourselves; it also affects what we say out loud to others. Here are just a few examples:
-“I feel like I’m never going to be able to leave my job.”
-“I bet I won’t get that promotion.”
-“I probably won’t ever meet the kind of man that would really make me happy.”
-“I don’t think realistically that I’ll ever be able to completely break ties with him (or her).”
-“I’ll never be able to afford to buy that.”
-“I just don’t see that as ever being possible.”
-“The road to hell is paved with good intentions.”
They often involve extreme language like never, or ever. A client shared that last one I listed when we were talking about intentions and being intentional with who we are being and with our actions. Now that’s a limiting belief if I’ve ever heard one!
We then talked about how that might not be true. Such as my mantra of, “we are all on our own path at our own pace.” We talked further about how we are where we are now, and metaphorically, it’s like only being able to see as far as what our car headlights light up as we’re driving at night. This is of course different than being able to visualize our future using our imagination. Some tend to look so far ahead that they miss out on what is happening right here, right now.
Some are limiting beliefs that believe it or not, were passed down to us from our family. I always try to assume that people have the best intentions, so I’m sure they had a good reason for telling you these things. I just wonder how believing these things also might be hindering you and your life in some way?
Then there are those beliefs and things we say about other people. Here are a few of those examples: