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Women Should Always be Initiators, Reciprocators, or Rejecters

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Women Should Always be Initiators, Reciprocators, or Rejecters
Women: how do you communicate your romantic or sexual desires, interests, and intentions with men?

If the man has expressed an interest in a relationship that is more long-term, more romantic, and more emotionally profound and monogamous, a 'Pretender' wants to make him "jump through a few hoops" before acknowledging her interest in him.  She wants to know for a fact that he is sincere, and that he will put forth some effort to win her over.

If the man has expressed an interest in a relationship that is more short-term, casual, and non-monogamous, she is reluctant to reciprocate his sexual desires and interests because she does not want to be labeled as or perceived as a "slut," a "whore," or an "easy lay."  The reality is that this woman definitely has an interest in exchanging orgasms with the very man who she is pretending not to be interested in.

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The "risk" for Pretender types:  In the midst of your subtle game-playing, you might just end up having the guy leave you alone for good, and you will never connect with him.  Do you really want that?  Secondly, men quickly lose respect for women who initially behave like a "prude" only to later acknowledge that they are down for a casual roll in the hay.  In other words, the ironic consequence of "pretending" that you are not into casual sex in order to avoid being labeled is exactly what happens when you are sexually duplicitous with men.

Timewasters:  Of all of the five female communicators, this one is the worst.  A 'Timewaster' is a woman who is pretty much just the opposite of a 'Pretender.'  A Timewaster is a woman who will initially flirt with a man, and temporarily or indefinitely give him the misleading impression that she is open to connect with him romantically or sexually ... but once the man's advances become more strong, frequent, or provocative, the woman will go ahead and ultimately confess that she really only wants to maintain a relationship with the man that will never go beyond the boundaries of a platonic friendship.

Shame on you.  Shame, shame, shame.  If this woman was never interested in sharing the guy's company in a romantic or sexual manner, why didn't she just share her lack of interest with him from the beginning?

Good question.

In a nutshell, this type of woman wanted to play games with the man.  She wanted to see how much attention she could get from him, how many free meals she could get from him, and how many general favors she could accumulate.  Some women think it is "cute" and "coy" to behave like a Timewaster with a man.  Too bad the vast majority of men do not feel the same way.

The "risk" for Timewaster types:  If you do not mind men stalking you, then by all means, become a Timewaster with men.  If you do not mind men calling you the "B-word" repeatedly in public in an attempt to humiliate you, then by all means, become a Timewaster with men.  If you do not mind men becoming increasingly aggressive with their unwanted and uninvited sexual advances, then by all means, become a Timewaster with men.

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In the long-run, there is no "upside" for either a man or a woman that comes from a woman behaving like a Timewaster.

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