The Main Reason You're Still Single

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Do you play manipulative head games with the opposite sex?

Here is how men play manipulative head games with women. They say to themselves: I am going to pretend like I am interested in having a long-term, monogamous relationship with you, but in reality, all I want is short-term and/or non-monogamous sex. Once I have sex with you for a few days, a few weeks, or a few months, I am going to think of a way to break up with you and move on to my next conquest.

Meanwhile, here's what women tell themselves: I know you want to get in my pants, but instead of immediately and straight-forwardly reciprocating your sexual desires and interests or harshly and abruptly rejecting them, I am going to string you along for a few days or a few weeks to see what you are going to offer me. Flattery? Entertaining social companionship? Expensive lunches and dinners at the finest restaurants? I am going see what you are willing to offer me in exchange for my sexual companionship, and once I have taken advantage of you, I am going to start ignoring you.

These two forms of "head games" are at the core of the growing chasm between male and female singles. Fortunately, the solution is simple.

Men need to always be upfront and straightforward about what type of sex they want. Long-term? Short-term? Monogamous? Non-monogamous? Resist the temptation to lead women on by playing with their emotions. As they say, "Hell hath no fury like ... " Well, you know the rest. Women should quit using their beauty and the allure of your sexual companionship to motivate men to spend money on them, boost their self-esteem, entertain them and listen empathically  to their problems and frustrations. If you are not interested in having sex with a man — particularly casual sex — just tell him that from the beginning.

As long as single men and women continue to engage in these head games, more men will be at home on a Friday and Saturday nights without female companionship, and more women will be in the same boat. I guess that is why cable television was invented, right?

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