The Main Reason You're Still Single
By Alan Roger Currie. Posted on .
Whenever I engage in conversations with single men and women about dating and relationships, all I hear is whining and complaining directed at the behavior of the opposite sex.
Many women in today's society will say, "I don't need a man; I am fine just by myself." To them I say: No, you are not. We were not given the opportunity to experience life on earth to be happy at home by ourselves. Men in today's society will say, "I am never getting married. Marriage is for losers." But no, marriage is not for losers. I know many winners who love being married and have been married for many years.
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So, why is there so much animosity and resentment among singles today? Here's the short answer to that question: It's due to the increased prevalence of both premarital sex and short-term non-monogamous "casual" sex. In previous centuries, men and women always had their share of philosophical differences related to love, sex, dating and relationships, but members of both genders generally got along. Why? Because prior to the popularity of modern day birth control methods, men and women typically waited until marriage to have sex.
And here's the longer answer: Unlike many women, the vast majority of men are not looking for sex from women within the context of a long-term, emotional, monogamous relationship. In fact, at least half of single, heterosexual me are looking for sex within the context of either: a short-term non-monogamous relationship (e.g., one-night stand, weekend fling, etc.); a short-term monogamous relationship (e.g., "sex buddies," your typical "boyfriend-girlfriend" relationship that has no chance of leading to marriage, etc.); or a long-term, non-monogamous relationship (e.g., "friends-with-benefits" relationship, any type of polyamorous relationship such as an "open marriage" or "open relationship," etc.).
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Even many of the women who are not interested in engaging in frequent episodes of casual sex with men realize that a good number of men will "offer them things" in exchange for a few quick episodes of pleasurable sex. Thus, what we have is a nation full of single men and women playing "manipulative head games" with one another. Keep reading ...
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