10 Lies Men Tell (And Why They Tell Them)

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Why do men repeatedly lie to women — and why do women repeatedly fall for their lies?

7. "Baby, you haven't heard from me because I'm dealing with some stuff." No, it's you and him. You know why this happens? Some lying womanizers and cheaters do have a "conscience." Let's say a lying womanizer meets you and gives you the misleading impression that he only wants to spend time with you — even though there are three or four other women he has on the side. One day, he might start feeling like, "Wow, I am really playing with this woman's emotions. I need to quit leading this woman on." However, he just can't bring himself to "come clean" with you. So what does he do? He makes himself unavailable and aloof. He's hoping he can just slowly "fade out" of your life without having to explain anything.

8. "Baby, of course I'm going to marry you someday. I know we've been dating for six years, but I am going to propose to you soon." I have known men to propose to a woman after dating them for five years or even 15 years. I will not go on record as saying that never, ever happens. That being said, the vast majority of men know within the first two to three years of dating a woman if they are going to propose to that woman or not. He may postpone proposing to his woman because he doesn't feel stable in his career or because he's wondering if there might be another woman who would be a better match, but it shouldn't take five or more years to determine if you are "the one."

9. "Baby, I'm going to break up with my wife/girlfriend soon. She is not the one for me. You're the one for me." Reality? There's almost no chance that you are going to be upgraded to longterm, exclusive status. In my lifetime, I cannot tell you how many women I've observed get their hearts broken by a man who was already in a relationship and gave them the impression that they were going to "one day" be elevated to the status of his only woman.

10. "Baby, you know I love you. How could you ever doubt my love for you and how much I care for you?" You want to know why so many women get their hearts broken by men? Among other reasons, because of their "addiction" to hearing these three words: "I love you."

All womanizers know the quickest way to endear themselves to a woman is to tell her, "I care for you, baby ... I love you." Those three words are like a psychological aphrodisiac for most women.

You need to get out of this trap. You keep falling victim to that trap and you will keep getting dogged out by men. This was one of the problems of the youngest daughter of the guy I spoke of earlier. Most of the guys who had sex with her, and quickly dumped her, would feed her those three magic words. There are two simple ways you can distinguish the "sincere" guys from the liars. Men who are sincerely in love with you do not tell you this right before having sex with you or while having sex with you. They will tell you they love you in a random manner "just because."

Again, it is your choice to adhere to my advice or ignore it. Do you want to be happy and content like that man's eldest daughter? Or be constantly hurt and romantically frustrated like that man's youngest daughter? You decide.

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