3. You don't want revenge ... anymore. You're no Dexter, but you've imagined seven different ways to make that loser pay for what happened. The only reason you haven't exacted some kind of punishment on your ex is that you believe in karma; plus who wants to go to jail? Take a breath, bombshell. Everyone did they best they could with what they knew at the time. When you no longer fantasize about getting him fired, kidnapping his dog, calling his mom or telling all on Facebook, you've moved on.
2. You're no longer bawling. Raise your hand if you've ever been curled up in a ball on your kitchen floor in tears. Yup. we've all been there at some point or another. Pain is inevitable if we live long enough. It's the suffering that's optional. If you can mention your ex without getting teary-eyed and you are no longer crying on a daily basis, you're probably on your way.
1. You forgive the past. Forgiveness is the most powerful piece in the love puzzle. Who should you forgive for optimal healing? Forgive everyone. Forgive yourself and your ex. Forgive the circumstances. Let go of the hope, wish and idea that the past could have been any different. Okay it happened and it sucked. What's the lesson from the situation?
Final love coach analysis ...
When a breakup happens, you should allow yourself to go through the full range of emotions. You have a right to be angry, sad or however you feel. De-friend him on social networks, sure, but slashing tires is not allowed — except in your imagination.
Be open to setups and meeting new people.
Yes, you've had your heart broken but you're still your wonderful, beautiful self. As Pink once said, "So what? You're still a rock star!" The most important lessons of all? You are worthy of being loved and you are enough.