Is He REALLY Committed To You? Here Are Some Ways To Tell

Love, Heartbreak

The way your man reacts to certain things will give you a big clue about he feels about commitment.

Commitment can be one of the scariest things that many men face in their lives. Everything is great as long as their girlfriends don't expect them to totally commit to them, and only them. There is just something about saying to someone that you'll be only with them from now on that strikes terror in the hearts of a lot of guys. It's because of this that it's difficult for many women to know whether or not their boyfriends are fully committed to them. They certainly don't want to bring up the subject because that could potentially end everything and send the guys running for the hills. So the question becomes how can you tell if he is 100% committed to you or not?

Looking at the way your guy reacts when you mention things such as weddings of friends or relatives will give you a big clue as to how he feels about permanent commitment. If he turns pale and sweaty, you've probably got a man on your hands that would rather throw himself off of a Hawaiian cliff rather than get married. He also most likely will avoid the subject like the plague. You'll notice lots of subject changing.

Take a cue from the reactions you get as to whether or not you should simply sit him down and have a long honest heart to heart talk about where the relationship is going. If you get the feeling that he may become less interested in even being in a relationship if the subject is nailed down, you'll probably want to wait before bringing it up. This may be a difficult thing to do if you're ready for a full blown commitment and he doesn't seem to be.

Another thing to notice is how he is around children, babies in particular. If he doesn't seem to want to be around them and will do all he can to avoid this event, chances are strong that he's not close to committing to you, or, probably, anyone else. Babies tend to frighten men that don't want a commitment because they see babies as the final nail in the coffin of entrapment. You see, babies are a true responsibility and it means that you're tied together for the rest of your life.

While guys may be amenable to moving in together, if they feel that you'll take this to mean that they're committed to you, it might not happen. Moving in with someone means that the relationship is being taken to the next level, that level being one where a commitment is involved. If they feel as if you're going to expect more from them with a live in situation, they'll probably pass on it and insist that your relationship is more exciting when you each have your own places to call home.

Those are just a few ways of discovering how your guy truly feels about commitment. On the other hand, if he loves talking about weddings, loves babies, and can't wait to move in with you, then you've got yourself a commitment in the making.


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