5 Signs Your Sex Life May Need A Makeover


Do you have a happy and healthy sex life? If you're unsure, maybe it's time to find out.

Are you in a relationship? If so, are you pleased with the amount of sex and intimacy that you are giving and receiving? Are you unsure?  For many men and women, this question is a lot harder to answer than it might seem. 

If you are unsure as to whether or not your sex life is good, would right now be a good time to found out? Why right now you might be asking yourself?

If you are pleased with the amount of intimacy that you both give and receive, you might want to share that with your partner on a regular basis. Doing so can help to improve your relationship. On the other hand, if you are not pleased with the level of intimacy you are giving and received, it may be time for you to consider making some changes, like experimenting in the bedroom.

So do you have a good sex life?  To help you get an accurate answer to that question, here are five signs that might indicate that your sex life could use a makeover:

Sign #1:  You Find Sex Boring

Unfortunately, many couples, especially those in long-term relationships, get to a certain point where sex just doesn't feel fun anymore.  Does it seem more like work or a chore to you? Being intimate with your partner should not seem like a responsibly that you are required to fulfill. Instead, it should be fun and exciting.

Do you reject being intimate with your partner? Do you put off going to bed with them out of fear or worry that they will want to share some intimacy with you? If you do, your sex life may need an improvement or a change.

Sign #2:  You Are Left  Feeling Unsatisfied

If and when you do get intimate with your partner, do you achieve maximum pleasure?  If not, your sex life may be in need of a makeover. This is most often the case with women. Some women find it more difficult to achieve maximum pleasure in the bedroom. But, it's important to know that it is possible.  You may need to offer suggestions to your partner or guide them. Whatever you do, just be sure to take action right away. A relationship where only one party is pleased, is likely to fail.

Sign #3:  Sex Feels Like a Responsibility

As it was previously stated, being intimate with your partner should not feel like work or a responsibility that you must fulfill. If it does, it might be time to make some changes. Be spontaneous. Initiate sex yourself, as opposed to waiting for your partner to do so. Spice up your intimacy by experimenting in the bedroom with a new position, or simply just have relations at a different time and place. Whatever approach you do take, be sure to do something. Do not let an otherwise healthy relationship fall apart because sex is something that you would rather avoid.

Sign #4:  You Don't Have Sex

To have a good sex life, you must first be having sex or some form of intimacy, plain and simple. Are you? If you are in an intimate relationship, there should be some form of intimacy that exists between you and your partner. Whether you get intimate with your partner on a daily basis or even just once a week, this closeness is important to your relationship and not just in the physical sense. 

If you are currently not in a relationship, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't have, or not pursue opportunities to experience intimacy and closeness with another adult. Take some sort of action TODAY to start feeling wanted, needed, and loved. This may involve using an online dating website or just visiting a bar with a bunch of your friends.

Sign #5:  Your Relationship Is Failing

Do you and your partner spend most of your time arguing? If so, your relationship may be in serious trouble. Despite arguing about a topic not related to intimacy, such as money or work, did you know that your lack of intimacy may be to blame? Couples who are happy inside the bedroom are likely to be happy outside of it as well. The two should go hand in hand.

So do you have a happy and healthy sex life? If not, remember that there are a number of steps that you can take to make an improvement in your levels of satisfaction.


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