4 Common Stages Of A Normal Breakup

Love, Heartbreak

Breaking up is always hard to do, but knowing the 4 stages of breaking up will help make it easier.

It has often been said that "love makes the world go 'round", and there is a lot of truth to that. Maybe that's why going through a breakup is such a tough thing to deal with. It's impossible to feel your best when your emotional needs aren't being met; you feel a certain emptiness and you're not sure if you'll ever be the same.

Nobody is saying it's easy, but knowing the 4 stages of breaking up will help you to get through it.

Stage 1. Shock is the first thing people experience after breaking up. It doesn't matter if you saw it coming, or if it happened out of the blue; feeling shock at the finality of the situation is normal. The good news is that it's fairly easy to get through this stage in a short amount of time.

Stage 2. The 2nd of the 4 stages of breaking up is denial. It's worth noting that denial comes in many different forms. What it really boils down to is refusing to accept the truth. In a way, denial is nothing more than a coping mechanism. After all, it's easier to pretend nothing's wrong than it is to face all of those "nasty emotions" head on. But you will never get past the breakup if you maintain a state of denial. It may be hard to believe, but things really will get better ... once you start seeing them as they really are.

Stage 3. After the shock and denial wear off, people often find that they are depressed. While being sad and heartbroken are normal, and will pass, true depression should always be treated. If you exhibit any of the warning signs of depression, then you need to talk to a doctor, psychiatrist or counselor as soon as possible. Depression should be taken seriously. That being said, chances are good that you are just incredibly sad and the feeling will lessen as more time passes.

Stage 4. You will have been through a lot by the time you get to the point of acceptance, but it will be worth it. It would be great if you could skip the other stages to get to this point, but that rarely happens. Accepting that it's really over and that your life still goes on will give you a fresh perspective on life.

These 4 stages of breaking up apply to most people, however everybody is different. Whatever you go through after a breakup, remember that you can get through it. If you need to get someone to help you move past it, then do what needs to be done. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it once you are happy again.


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