llustrates how experiences and messages from our parents during childhood create internal defenses that, in turn, support negative views of ourself and others. Since these psychological barriers interfere with emotional closeness and sexual intimacy with a partner, the authors emphasize solving the underlying issues over improving technical performance or on ...

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The inner critic is the voice in our heads that whispers, whines, and needles us into poor self-esteem and self-confidence. It edits our thoughts, controls our behavior, and inhibits our actions. It thinks it is protecting us from being hurt or feeling abandoned, but all it really does is reinforce our feelings of shame and guilt, sabotage our intimate ...

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In Fear of Intimacy, the authors bring almost 40 years of clinical experience to bear in challenging the usual ways of thinking about couples and families. They argue that relationships fail not for the commonly cited reasons, but because psychological defenses formed in childhood act as a barrier to closeness in adulthood. A wide range of cross-generational case ...

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